So I called South Beach back tonight and it went straight to vmail. He called me back from a cab in NYC, going to a wedding. Good news is he didn't fly up there with a girl if he called me from a cab on the way from the airport and he said he was staying at a friend's so maybe that means he doesn't have a girlfriend.
He said he can't make it up next weekend but said we needed to figure out a weekend for me to come to Miami. We threw a few dates back and forth and it looks like the end of Jan is the 1st time we can work something out.
Why did it take me asking him here before he asked me to visit him? Still just as confused as before.
Wednesday, December 30, 2009
Ole Miss Update
Ole Miss called tonight. He left a message and just said he wanted to see what I was up to this weekend. Why is he just calling now?
As a sidenote, a few weeks ago, my blackberry had issues and they had to reset it. Any number I input on my blackberry instead of my computer was erased. Work told me the numbers would erase to give me the opportunity to write them down. I took it as a sign so I didn't write any numbers down so it erased anyone I met from October until now.
I am taking it as a sign, but for some reason my phone didn't ring and he didn't leave his number on the message and I don't have his number in my phone since it was erased when they reset my blackberry.
Why is it every time I decide to make the decision to take time for myself someone from the past pops up.
As a sidenote, a few weeks ago, my blackberry had issues and they had to reset it. Any number I input on my blackberry instead of my computer was erased. Work told me the numbers would erase to give me the opportunity to write them down. I took it as a sign so I didn't write any numbers down so it erased anyone I met from October until now.
I am taking it as a sign, but for some reason my phone didn't ring and he didn't leave his number on the message and I don't have his number in my phone since it was erased when they reset my blackberry.
Why is it every time I decide to make the decision to take time for myself someone from the past pops up.
I invited South Beach to the ATL
I know I have catching up to do, but I have been taking it easy with little to report during the holidays. Doesn’t make for good blogging, but my liver is thanking me.
The whole South Beach situation continues to perplex me – he sends texts (personalized, not the mass text) to say Happy whatever holiday or sends a text to tell me he is thinking about me if he sees something on TV that reminds him of me like AU football and randomly calls every few weeks. If I send him a text, he always calls me instead of texting back that night or the next day. BUT he has never invited me down to see him. I am convinced that he has a girlfriend. I asked him the night we met and he said no, but 3 months have passed since then.
I want to know one way or the other what the deal is. In my typical style, I drunk texted him and invited him up her for a friend’s birthday party next weekend. Yep…drunk text “come to atl on Jan 9th”
Well…he called me last night, which may not be a bad thing, but I was already asleep so I didn’t answer. I know he isn’t going to come, so if he doesn’t and doesn’t have a really, really good excuse (I will let you know what it is), I am chalking this up to he is in a relationship. I am going to call him back tonight. Stay tuned.
I am working on dating New Year’s resolutions and should have them up by this weekend.
The whole South Beach situation continues to perplex me – he sends texts (personalized, not the mass text) to say Happy whatever holiday or sends a text to tell me he is thinking about me if he sees something on TV that reminds him of me like AU football and randomly calls every few weeks. If I send him a text, he always calls me instead of texting back that night or the next day. BUT he has never invited me down to see him. I am convinced that he has a girlfriend. I asked him the night we met and he said no, but 3 months have passed since then.
I want to know one way or the other what the deal is. In my typical style, I drunk texted him and invited him up her for a friend’s birthday party next weekend. Yep…drunk text “come to atl on Jan 9th”
Well…he called me last night, which may not be a bad thing, but I was already asleep so I didn’t answer. I know he isn’t going to come, so if he doesn’t and doesn’t have a really, really good excuse (I will let you know what it is), I am chalking this up to he is in a relationship. I am going to call him back tonight. Stay tuned.
I am working on dating New Year’s resolutions and should have them up by this weekend.
Friday, December 11, 2009
New York Dilemma Update
Verdict...I am not going to call or text New York and tell him I will be in town. I am deleting him from my phone right now so there is no chance I will transform into a stalker. I was leaning towards no, but a lovely reader said I would cross over to the "creepy" category and I saw the light.
Maybe I will meet another NYC cutie when I am there. This trip I have a single sidekick so hopefully we will have good luck.
Maybe I will meet another NYC cutie when I am there. This trip I have a single sidekick so hopefully we will have good luck.
Am I smoking crack?
The I love you guy called again Monday night and left a really long message apologizing for his behavior the other week. He said it has really been bothering him and he wanted me to know how sorry he was and that wasn't normal behavior for him.
I hate when people don't call me back so my plan was to call him back, tell him I totally understood and that while I had fun going out with him, I don't think we are looking for the same thing out of a relationship right now. It's pretty clear to me he is on a serious wife hunt and I am not interested in being any one's wife (now or possibly ever).
Well...that's not how the call went. Somehow I found myself agreeing to go out with him again. WHAT! Why did I do that? I felt so bad for him that I couldn't bring myself to say we are looking for different things. It's not like I am criticizing him so I don't know why the words would not come out of my mouth. Of course, since I was such a wimp, I am now dreading going out with him on Tuesday. I guess I need to work up the courage to call him and tell him before then or stop complaining about going.
I hate when people don't call me back so my plan was to call him back, tell him I totally understood and that while I had fun going out with him, I don't think we are looking for the same thing out of a relationship right now. It's pretty clear to me he is on a serious wife hunt and I am not interested in being any one's wife (now or possibly ever).
Well...that's not how the call went. Somehow I found myself agreeing to go out with him again. WHAT! Why did I do that? I felt so bad for him that I couldn't bring myself to say we are looking for different things. It's not like I am criticizing him so I don't know why the words would not come out of my mouth. Of course, since I was such a wimp, I am now dreading going out with him on Tuesday. I guess I need to work up the courage to call him and tell him before then or stop complaining about going.
Monday, December 7, 2009
Dilemma
I am going back to New York next week. I will be in town for one night. Should I let New York know I will be in town. After being a stalker, not a good idea but on the other hand, what do I have to lose?
I get the he's just not that into me rules and I haven't heard from him since the weekend I was in town, but...who knows.
Please vote using the comments section. As an FYI...you can respond anonymously.
I get the he's just not that into me rules and I haven't heard from him since the weekend I was in town, but...who knows.
Please vote using the comments section. As an FYI...you can respond anonymously.
Ole Miss
Ole Miss is the first guy I have liked since BDE. He seems like such a gentleman. After he came home with me on our night of drunkenness and making out, he did not take advantage of the situation which I really appreciate because he totally could have.
He texted me on Saturday after we met to see what I was up to and again later in the week to see if it would be ok if he called me. I thought this was a little weird, but it was cute because it was polite. Of course I texted back that I would luv for him to call me.
We went out last Thursday night. I had a charity bowling event and he had dinner with friends so we met up afterwards to have a drink and watch a movie. It was a lot of fun...we spent so much time talking we didn't even watch the movie. The conversation was not strained at all and we had a lot to talk about. It was late so I ended up staying over at his house - again he was a total gentleman. He said some really sweet things and talked about taking me to a couple of different restaurants I have not been to yet. He said he didn't want too much time to go by before he saw me again.
We laughed about the night we met - he said we both got a free pass on our behavior that night :)
The next day, I was in lala land. I really liked him. He is from the South (Atlanta), comes from a good family, started his own company and it is doing well, he's into football and sports, definitely has manners, likes to go out to eat, social...I could keep going. He seemed like a guy I would really like.
BUT...it's Monday morning and I haven't heard from him yet. It was a busy weekend and we both had family in town, but he didn't even send a text - not a good sign.
He texted me on Saturday after we met to see what I was up to and again later in the week to see if it would be ok if he called me. I thought this was a little weird, but it was cute because it was polite. Of course I texted back that I would luv for him to call me.
We went out last Thursday night. I had a charity bowling event and he had dinner with friends so we met up afterwards to have a drink and watch a movie. It was a lot of fun...we spent so much time talking we didn't even watch the movie. The conversation was not strained at all and we had a lot to talk about. It was late so I ended up staying over at his house - again he was a total gentleman. He said some really sweet things and talked about taking me to a couple of different restaurants I have not been to yet. He said he didn't want too much time to go by before he saw me again.
We laughed about the night we met - he said we both got a free pass on our behavior that night :)
The next day, I was in lala land. I really liked him. He is from the South (Atlanta), comes from a good family, started his own company and it is doing well, he's into football and sports, definitely has manners, likes to go out to eat, social...I could keep going. He seemed like a guy I would really like.
BUT...it's Monday morning and I haven't heard from him yet. It was a busy weekend and we both had family in town, but he didn't even send a text - not a good sign.
Baseball Boy
I finally went out with Baseball Boy. Back in the summer, we made a bet on the Auburn/Alabama game. He is an Alabama fan and of course I am an Auburn fan. About a week before the game he started texting me again. As we all know, Auburn lost the game so I had to pay up.
I learned a very important lesson from this date - guys that you meet out late night are likely not going to be as cute as you remember. He was nice, but not as cute as I remembered there was no spark. The conversation was fine. I have been a little paranoid since the I love you guy told me I was quiet. He brought up the Braves. I don't know why I find that so annoying, but I do.
Anyway, after the date, he sent me a facebook request. I don't mix facebook and guys so I don't know how to handle the situation. On this one, I don't care because I don't like him, but what do I do if a guy I like sends a FB request. I feel like a dork saying I don't mix dating and guys, but I don't want to ignore it either. Any suggestions?
I learned a very important lesson from this date - guys that you meet out late night are likely not going to be as cute as you remember. He was nice, but not as cute as I remembered there was no spark. The conversation was fine. I have been a little paranoid since the I love you guy told me I was quiet. He brought up the Braves. I don't know why I find that so annoying, but I do.
Anyway, after the date, he sent me a facebook request. I don't mix facebook and guys so I don't know how to handle the situation. On this one, I don't care because I don't like him, but what do I do if a guy I like sends a FB request. I feel like a dork saying I don't mix dating and guys, but I don't want to ignore it either. Any suggestions?
Makeout Session
The most random nights begin with "we are just going out for one drink." SBF (which I need to change her name now since she isn't single anymore) and I headed out for a drink the Friday after Thanksgiving. I attended the Auburn/Alabama game that day and for some reason wasn't totally exhausted and felt like going out for a drink.
We went to a local pub and found a couple seats at the bar. It was perfect to chat, catch up and people watch. We ran into a few people SBF knew and met a few friends of friends. One of the guys we met hung out with us for a little while and was giving advice on how I could pick up guys (introduce nickname as Ole Miss). He even started buying shots for guys and telling them the shot was from me a an experiment to see how many guys would come over to say thanks and talk. Of course, we started taking shots too - so much for the one drink rule.
When the fun of the pub wore off, Ole Miss, SBF and I went to Johnny's Hideaway - an old person's dance club that turns young after midnight. When we got to Johnny's we continued to take more shots. You can't have drinks on the dance floor so shots work better for drinking here. I am not proud of the rest of this post, and I am going to catch hell for this, but here it goes...
Ole Miss and I took the dance floor where our make out session began. We made out on the dance floor, at the bar, on the dance floor again. Finally, SBF was ready to go and of course in my drunken state, Waffle House seemed like a good idea - especially since it it conveniently located next to Johnny's. There was line for Waffle House so we put $ in the jute box and started playing songs. I also continued to make out with Ole Miss. I got tired of waiting at this Waffle House so we decided to go to another one closer to my house. On the way there, Ole Miss and I made out like rock stars in the backseat of the taxi. SBF was mortified! She said she was going home and dropped us off at Waffle House - smart move on her part. Ole Miss and I sat on the same side of the booth and made out for an hour at the 2nd Waffle House. Who does this...really! At 4 we finally decide to leave. Ole Miss comes home with me. This is the 1st time I have EVER brought a guy home with me. In fact, aside from family members, I have never even let a guy in my condo. More to follow in a second post on Ole Miss.
We went to a local pub and found a couple seats at the bar. It was perfect to chat, catch up and people watch. We ran into a few people SBF knew and met a few friends of friends. One of the guys we met hung out with us for a little while and was giving advice on how I could pick up guys (introduce nickname as Ole Miss). He even started buying shots for guys and telling them the shot was from me a an experiment to see how many guys would come over to say thanks and talk. Of course, we started taking shots too - so much for the one drink rule.
When the fun of the pub wore off, Ole Miss, SBF and I went to Johnny's Hideaway - an old person's dance club that turns young after midnight. When we got to Johnny's we continued to take more shots. You can't have drinks on the dance floor so shots work better for drinking here. I am not proud of the rest of this post, and I am going to catch hell for this, but here it goes...
Ole Miss and I took the dance floor where our make out session began. We made out on the dance floor, at the bar, on the dance floor again. Finally, SBF was ready to go and of course in my drunken state, Waffle House seemed like a good idea - especially since it it conveniently located next to Johnny's. There was line for Waffle House so we put $ in the jute box and started playing songs. I also continued to make out with Ole Miss. I got tired of waiting at this Waffle House so we decided to go to another one closer to my house. On the way there, Ole Miss and I made out like rock stars in the backseat of the taxi. SBF was mortified! She said she was going home and dropped us off at Waffle House - smart move on her part. Ole Miss and I sat on the same side of the booth and made out for an hour at the 2nd Waffle House. Who does this...really! At 4 we finally decide to leave. Ole Miss comes home with me. This is the 1st time I have EVER brought a guy home with me. In fact, aside from family members, I have never even let a guy in my condo. More to follow in a second post on Ole Miss.
Tuesday, December 1, 2009
The I love you date
Against my better judgement, I went out with Auburn again. I knew I didn't like him, but thought it wouldn't hurt to give him another chance. I knew it the night wasn't going the way I would like it when Auburn asked me on the way to dinner what my biggest insecurity was. Hello, I don't know you and this isn't 3rd date talk. I only talk to my therapist about things like that.
Throughout the course of dinner, I tried to be talkative and lively, but the insecurity question threw me for a loop. I didn't answer him...I feel like that was a very personal question and call me guarded, but I am not going to point out my insecurities or flaws on date 3. This further proves my theory that Auburn is desperate to find a wife and is not looking to date someone.
After dinner we went to one of the newer restaurants in Atl to grab a drink. Auburn had a friend coming into town and wanted to meet up with a few friends after dinner. I was fine with this because I was tired of the serious therapy talk.
We were by ourselves for a while at drinks and I noticed Auburn was pounding the drinks. I was 1/4 of the way through my gimlet and he was on drink #2. This is where things went downhill. I am all for constructive criticism - I would love to hear what I do wrong on a date, but the following is not the preferred method.
Auburn: I find you attractive and am drawn to you but don't know if I am going to like you because you are too quiet for me
Me: Really, I don't really know you yet but once I get to know people, I can assure you that you won't describe me as "quiet"
Auburn: No, you are too quiet for me - I can't always carry the conversation
Me: Maybe it's because you ask super personal questions that I don't want to discuss or elaborate on
Silence...
Auburn: I don't think you are in to me
Me: Why do you think that?
Auburn: Because we haven't had sex or messed around
Me: What?
Auburn: Well, it's our 3rd date, we should being having sex tonight and we haven't even messed around
Que the friends...
I decided I was leaving and taking a cab home at this point but his friends talked me into going to the W with them under the presumption that it would be easier to catch a cab from there.
So, again, against my better judgement, I went with them. By the time we reached the W (only a block away) Auburn could barely walk and even his friends were suggesting he drink some water and take a break from drinking.
I was tired, sober and totally turned off after the sex conversation so I informed the group I was leaving.
Auburn: Why are you leaving?
Me: I am tired and ready to go home. Please stay out with your friends, I don't mind grabbing a cab home.
Auburn: No, I want to go home with you.
Me: It's ok, stay with your friends.
Auburn: Let's go home together.
Me: No, I am going home by myself!
Auburn: my name, I think I love you
Me: Mouth on the floor.........
Auburn: Did you hear me, I said I think I love you
Me: turn to friends and tell them I am leaving and I run
1) who does that? 2) I don't like the 3 date rule. Everyone assumes if you go out on 3 dates it's an automatic pass that you are going to have sex. Maybe that is what went wrong with BDE. I am not into this...I don't think I am a prude, but good Lord, I am not going to sleep with everyone I go on 3 dates with. If this is the rule, I am going to have a lot of disastrous 3rd dates.
Auburn called the next morning and left a vmail - "wanted to catch up, sorry about last night, I was a little drunk. Give me a call"
I hate when guys don't call me back so I know the right thing to do is call him and tell him that we are looking for different things in a relationship, but I dread it! Tomorrow I am going to do it.
Throughout the course of dinner, I tried to be talkative and lively, but the insecurity question threw me for a loop. I didn't answer him...I feel like that was a very personal question and call me guarded, but I am not going to point out my insecurities or flaws on date 3. This further proves my theory that Auburn is desperate to find a wife and is not looking to date someone.
After dinner we went to one of the newer restaurants in Atl to grab a drink. Auburn had a friend coming into town and wanted to meet up with a few friends after dinner. I was fine with this because I was tired of the serious therapy talk.
We were by ourselves for a while at drinks and I noticed Auburn was pounding the drinks. I was 1/4 of the way through my gimlet and he was on drink #2. This is where things went downhill. I am all for constructive criticism - I would love to hear what I do wrong on a date, but the following is not the preferred method.
Auburn: I find you attractive and am drawn to you but don't know if I am going to like you because you are too quiet for me
Me: Really, I don't really know you yet but once I get to know people, I can assure you that you won't describe me as "quiet"
Auburn: No, you are too quiet for me - I can't always carry the conversation
Me: Maybe it's because you ask super personal questions that I don't want to discuss or elaborate on
Silence...
Auburn: I don't think you are in to me
Me: Why do you think that?
Auburn: Because we haven't had sex or messed around
Me: What?
Auburn: Well, it's our 3rd date, we should being having sex tonight and we haven't even messed around
Que the friends...
I decided I was leaving and taking a cab home at this point but his friends talked me into going to the W with them under the presumption that it would be easier to catch a cab from there.
So, again, against my better judgement, I went with them. By the time we reached the W (only a block away) Auburn could barely walk and even his friends were suggesting he drink some water and take a break from drinking.
I was tired, sober and totally turned off after the sex conversation so I informed the group I was leaving.
Auburn: Why are you leaving?
Me: I am tired and ready to go home. Please stay out with your friends, I don't mind grabbing a cab home.
Auburn: No, I want to go home with you.
Me: It's ok, stay with your friends.
Auburn: Let's go home together.
Me: No, I am going home by myself!
Auburn: my name, I think I love you
Me: Mouth on the floor.........
Auburn: Did you hear me, I said I think I love you
Me: turn to friends and tell them I am leaving and I run
1) who does that? 2) I don't like the 3 date rule. Everyone assumes if you go out on 3 dates it's an automatic pass that you are going to have sex. Maybe that is what went wrong with BDE. I am not into this...I don't think I am a prude, but good Lord, I am not going to sleep with everyone I go on 3 dates with. If this is the rule, I am going to have a lot of disastrous 3rd dates.
Auburn called the next morning and left a vmail - "wanted to catch up, sorry about last night, I was a little drunk. Give me a call"
I hate when guys don't call me back so I know the right thing to do is call him and tell him that we are looking for different things in a relationship, but I dread it! Tomorrow I am going to do it.
Sunday, November 22, 2009
New York Date
Wow…NYC treated me right. This was my first trip by myself for leisure – I don’t know that you can actually call it a true trip since it was only for 1 night/day, BUT it was a good start. It is definitely more fun to have someone with you, but it was a “growing” experience for me.
I met New York for drinks at the Four Seasons. I was a little nervous because I was afraid I might not recognize him. Luckily, there was more than 1 bar so he met me in the lobby. He had a client dinner so we only had 2 hours, but I had a a great time (only after I left did I screw things up). On my way to NYC I was thinking – why I am interested in this guy. Am I just interested because it is a challenge and he is from out of town?. I met him for a couple hours a month ago. After spending some more time with him, I remember why. He is so much fun to talk to. He is younger than me YIKES…No cougar comments please…he is 27.
He is a total gentleman. Amazing conversation. He is very interesting, well spoken, close with his family, career oriented, smart and likes to have fun. Not only did he buy my drinks, he also paid for my cab fare – I found a Yankee with southern manners.
I was nervous and had too many drinks (3 gimlets in 2 hours) and had a nice buzz going when I left drinks New York. I went to dinner and had a few more drinks so I was in a drunken stupor by the time I finished dinner. That’s when psycho came out. I started texting New York basically begging him to meet me out. I sent no less than 8 text. Really…am I really that desperate. No, but apparently after a few drinks I act that way.
Anyway, I sent a final text to New York the next afternoon telling him that I was mortified about stalking him last night and that I was not a crazy person. He sent a text saying he thought it was funny and he had a great time. I guess it doesn’t really matter because when am I really going to see him again, but I don’t want some guy out there thinking I am a crazy stalker after meeting him 2x. So, I screwed up by being a text stalker but at least it makes for a funny story. Haven’t heard from him since the last text and probably never will.
I met New York for drinks at the Four Seasons. I was a little nervous because I was afraid I might not recognize him. Luckily, there was more than 1 bar so he met me in the lobby. He had a client dinner so we only had 2 hours, but I had a a great time (only after I left did I screw things up). On my way to NYC I was thinking – why I am interested in this guy. Am I just interested because it is a challenge and he is from out of town?. I met him for a couple hours a month ago. After spending some more time with him, I remember why. He is so much fun to talk to. He is younger than me YIKES…No cougar comments please…he is 27.
He is a total gentleman. Amazing conversation. He is very interesting, well spoken, close with his family, career oriented, smart and likes to have fun. Not only did he buy my drinks, he also paid for my cab fare – I found a Yankee with southern manners.
I was nervous and had too many drinks (3 gimlets in 2 hours) and had a nice buzz going when I left drinks New York. I went to dinner and had a few more drinks so I was in a drunken stupor by the time I finished dinner. That’s when psycho came out. I started texting New York basically begging him to meet me out. I sent no less than 8 text. Really…am I really that desperate. No, but apparently after a few drinks I act that way.
Anyway, I sent a final text to New York the next afternoon telling him that I was mortified about stalking him last night and that I was not a crazy person. He sent a text saying he thought it was funny and he had a great time. I guess it doesn’t really matter because when am I really going to see him again, but I don’t want some guy out there thinking I am a crazy stalker after meeting him 2x. So, I screwed up by being a text stalker but at least it makes for a funny story. Haven’t heard from him since the last text and probably never will.
Thursday, November 12, 2009
New York Date Update
I am on the plane right now headed to NYC for a work meeting and I decided to stay over one night and take a break from the craziness of work. I talked to New York last night and we are meeting for drinks tonight!!! He has a client dinner but we are meeting beforehand for a couple drinks. He was so sweet on the phone last night. While I was fairly intoxicated when I met him, I do remember having a great conversation with him so I am looking forward to spending some more time with him. I know that he lives in New York and it will go now where, but it's something fun to do.
He gave me the choice of meeting him at Starbucks or the Four Seasons - he was obviously taking a jab at me for standing him up for our coffee date last time. I am still nervous that he is going to pay me back and stand me up :( I will die if that happens! Last night I was flipping through the channels and ended up watching a little bit of You've Got Mail with Meg Ryan & Tom Hanks. There is a scene where she is supposed to meet him for coffee but he realizes who she is and she is basically stood up - she spends an hour in the coffee house staring at the door and every person that walks in hoping it is him. I thought...well that could be me tonight - sitting at the bar alone waiting for New York to show up - hopefully not!
Stay tuned...
He gave me the choice of meeting him at Starbucks or the Four Seasons - he was obviously taking a jab at me for standing him up for our coffee date last time. I am still nervous that he is going to pay me back and stand me up :( I will die if that happens! Last night I was flipping through the channels and ended up watching a little bit of You've Got Mail with Meg Ryan & Tom Hanks. There is a scene where she is supposed to meet him for coffee but he realizes who she is and she is basically stood up - she spends an hour in the coffee house staring at the door and every person that walks in hoping it is him. I thought...well that could be me tonight - sitting at the bar alone waiting for New York to show up - hopefully not!
Stay tuned...
Auburn Update
So I wasn't sure if I would hear back from Auburn and as yesterday drew to a close, I was certain I would not hear from him. If you go out on Saturday, aren't they supposed to call by Tuesday??? Once again, I was wrong about the whole dating thing... Auburn called last night. We chatted for a while - he is so hysterical. I have been so stressed about work lately to the point of misery and Auburn has been a welcome reprieve from my head spinning with everything I have going on. Last night after I hung up the phone with him, I was in such a better mood! I am out of town the rest of the week and headed to the Auburn game Saturday (WDE!!!) so we penciled in a date for Sunday.
Monday, November 9, 2009
I don't understand South Beach
Please don't think I am crazy because I am obsessed with someone I met one time...
I didn't totally delete South Beach from my phone - apparently, when you are drunk, you miss a couple phone calls here and there. I am headed to NYC this week and since South Beach travels as much as I do, I texted him yesterday to see if there was an outside chance he would be in NYC this week. His company is headquartered there and he lived there for several years so I thought it was worth a shot.
This weekend he was on a guys golf outing and he called me yesterday, in the middle of his guy golf weekend, to respond to my text. I missed his call so I didn't talk to him yesterday, but I took it as a good sign that he called me while still on his trip - right???
I returned his call after waiting the appropriate amount of time (so he doesn't think I am sitting around waiting for his call). Left him a message. He called back tonight and we talked for 30 + minutes. He won't be in NYC this week :(
I am not complaining, but why does he call? He doesn't have a trip planned to Atlanta. He apparently used to travel here a lot, but his work schedule has changed due to a couple things and he doesn't come here as often. He isn't asking me out or inviting me down to SB so I don't get it. Again, no complaining - but I am not sure of his intentions. Thinking from a guys perspective, he wants to keep me engaged in case he has a trip here? I don't know. Again, more confusion in the dating world.
I didn't totally delete South Beach from my phone - apparently, when you are drunk, you miss a couple phone calls here and there. I am headed to NYC this week and since South Beach travels as much as I do, I texted him yesterday to see if there was an outside chance he would be in NYC this week. His company is headquartered there and he lived there for several years so I thought it was worth a shot.
This weekend he was on a guys golf outing and he called me yesterday, in the middle of his guy golf weekend, to respond to my text. I missed his call so I didn't talk to him yesterday, but I took it as a good sign that he called me while still on his trip - right???
I returned his call after waiting the appropriate amount of time (so he doesn't think I am sitting around waiting for his call). Left him a message. He called back tonight and we talked for 30 + minutes. He won't be in NYC this week :(
I am not complaining, but why does he call? He doesn't have a trip planned to Atlanta. He apparently used to travel here a lot, but his work schedule has changed due to a couple things and he doesn't come here as often. He isn't asking me out or inviting me down to SB so I don't get it. Again, no complaining - but I am not sure of his intentions. Thinking from a guys perspective, he wants to keep me engaged in case he has a trip here? I don't know. Again, more confusion in the dating world.
Sunday, November 8, 2009
Band Guy Update
I am STILL playing phone tag with Band Guy. I have to admit, there have been a few times he has called and I could have answered but it just wasn't a convenient time. He called a couple times this week and I texted him to let him know I would call when I got back in town. I called him on Friday and he called back tonight.
I finally left him a message tonight that said we should just set a date and time to meet so we can finally talk to each other instead of playing phone tag. We can coordinate the logistics over voicemail.
He voicemails are still super cute :)
I finally left him a message tonight that said we should just set a date and time to meet so we can finally talk to each other instead of playing phone tag. We can coordinate the logistics over voicemail.
He voicemails are still super cute :)
Baseball Boy Update
I totally forgot that I made a bet with Baseball boy, who happens to be a huge Alabama fan, that whoever lost the AU/UA game, would take the winner out for a beer. Baseball boy texted me Friday night that he had a feeling I would be taking him out for a beer soon. He sent me a few random texts but never asked me out after the weird Braves game ask me out incident but I haven't heard from him in several weeks.
We'll see what happens with that - I am fairly certain if Auburn loses, he will so to be paid up on our bet. If I am taking him out for a drink on a bet, does that still count as a date?
We'll see what happens with that - I am fairly certain if Auburn loses, he will so to be paid up on our bet. If I am taking him out for a drink on a bet, does that still count as a date?
Auburn
Thursday night, out with girlfriends, I met a guy and one of his friends. This guy caught my eye because he was having such a good time. I am going to nickname this guy Auburn because he went to Auburn & potentially played fball there (he is such a joker I am not certain and of course cannot remember his last name to google him).
I hung out with Auburn and his friend for a good part of the night. I had a great time with him. Thursday night, he asked me out for Saturday night to a party he was attending. My rule about guys who ask me out while drinking is for them to ask me the next day when they are sober ;) Friday he called and asked me to the party again.
Auburn and I went out Saturday night for drinks and then to a party. When we were out for drinks, we ran into a couple that we both knew (such a small world). Auburn is totally hysterical - I cried several times last night because I was laughing so hard. I swear my stomach is sore today just from laughing! The party was a lot of fun and he is definitely a social butterfly and the center of attention at the party.
I am not head over heels about Auburn, but would go out with him again if he called. However, I do think based on the questions he asked me last night, he is looking for something way more serious than I am right now.
I hung out with Auburn and his friend for a good part of the night. I had a great time with him. Thursday night, he asked me out for Saturday night to a party he was attending. My rule about guys who ask me out while drinking is for them to ask me the next day when they are sober ;) Friday he called and asked me to the party again.
Auburn and I went out Saturday night for drinks and then to a party. When we were out for drinks, we ran into a couple that we both knew (such a small world). Auburn is totally hysterical - I cried several times last night because I was laughing so hard. I swear my stomach is sore today just from laughing! The party was a lot of fun and he is definitely a social butterfly and the center of attention at the party.
I am not head over heels about Auburn, but would go out with him again if he called. However, I do think based on the questions he asked me last night, he is looking for something way more serious than I am right now.
Dating Frustrations
Last week after BDE texted a let's not see each anymore text, I was upset and frustrated with dating. On my flight home the next day, I decided I need to focus on myself and quit worrying about guys and dating. The negativity and frustration associated with dating is not something I want to deal with right now. I have a lot going on with work and enough stress in my life - dating doesn't need to amplify my stress. By the time the plane landed, I was set on forgetting about guys and focusing on enjoying life.
I had plans to go out with SBF and another friend that night and I was excited to go out, hang out with them and not worry about scouting out potential dates.
While we were out I ran into an old work friend and he was quizzing me on how dating was going. I vented to him about my frustrations, which I won't go into again. His advice, you have to stay in the game, stay positive and let everything roll off your back. The trick to dating is timing. I may meet an amazing guy who is really into me and we hit it off but if a new girl enters the picture the night before/after or an old girlfriend- it can throw off the situation entirely. Per him, most radio silence, doesn't have anything to do with the rejected party - its mere circumstance. He did give a few pointers and things that would cause you to be reason for rejection, but luckily - I haven't done any of those things.
Of course, within 24 hours of deciding to "focus" on myself, I heard from guys I had not heard from in months and met 2 new guys. Isn't that how it always works.
I had plans to go out with SBF and another friend that night and I was excited to go out, hang out with them and not worry about scouting out potential dates.
While we were out I ran into an old work friend and he was quizzing me on how dating was going. I vented to him about my frustrations, which I won't go into again. His advice, you have to stay in the game, stay positive and let everything roll off your back. The trick to dating is timing. I may meet an amazing guy who is really into me and we hit it off but if a new girl enters the picture the night before/after or an old girlfriend- it can throw off the situation entirely. Per him, most radio silence, doesn't have anything to do with the rejected party - its mere circumstance. He did give a few pointers and things that would cause you to be reason for rejection, but luckily - I haven't done any of those things.
Of course, within 24 hours of deciding to "focus" on myself, I heard from guys I had not heard from in months and met 2 new guys. Isn't that how it always works.
New York Update
Last week I found out I have a meeting in NYC on Thursday afternoon. Since it is on Thursday, I am going to stay Thursday night and spend an extra day in NYC!
I texted New York, the guy I stood up for a coffee date, to see if he was interested in drinks. He has a client dinner, but said he could meet me before the dinner. Hopefully karma won't come back to bite me - I can just see him canceling the date because I stood him up last time. Anyway, I am excited for the trip and hopefully a drink date will just be a plus :)
I texted New York, the guy I stood up for a coffee date, to see if he was interested in drinks. He has a client dinner, but said he could meet me before the dinner. Hopefully karma won't come back to bite me - I can just see him canceling the date because I stood him up last time. Anyway, I am excited for the trip and hopefully a drink date will just be a plus :)
South Beach Update
I am still obsessed with South Beach - probably because I know this is the least likely person to work out and it is the biggest challenge. I was in New Orleans this week which happens to be one of his favorite cities. He and I texted a couple times when I was there - nothing profound.
He travels a lot for work as well and he was in New Orleans the week before. In running through our travel schedules, we travel to some of the same cities, just not at the same time.
Wednesday I found out I would be going to New York. Since he is in the financial industry, he is in New York a good bit. I sent him a text with a couple dates I thought I would be there and told him that if these dates didn't work, I was giving up on it ever working out to see each other. He called within 15 minutes.
We chatted for a while, but again, no plans to see each other. I can't tell if he is interested. I know we live in different cities so that is a challenge in itself, we both in the midst of busy seasons at work which adds an extra layer of difficulty... BUT, if he isn't interested, why has he called???
In my rage about BDE/BDJ, I did another mass delete of most of the guys in my phone although I missed a few - unfortunately, South Beach is deleted again so its up to him if I hear from him again.
He travels a lot for work as well and he was in New Orleans the week before. In running through our travel schedules, we travel to some of the same cities, just not at the same time.
Wednesday I found out I would be going to New York. Since he is in the financial industry, he is in New York a good bit. I sent him a text with a couple dates I thought I would be there and told him that if these dates didn't work, I was giving up on it ever working out to see each other. He called within 15 minutes.
We chatted for a while, but again, no plans to see each other. I can't tell if he is interested. I know we live in different cities so that is a challenge in itself, we both in the midst of busy seasons at work which adds an extra layer of difficulty... BUT, if he isn't interested, why has he called???
In my rage about BDE/BDJ, I did another mass delete of most of the guys in my phone although I missed a few - unfortunately, South Beach is deleted again so its up to him if I hear from him again.
Blind Date Extraordinaire
After consulting a couple friends, BDE (Blind Date Extraordinaire) is the name we came up with for the guy my BRF set me up with for dinner. BDE and I went out the Monday after our Friday dinner. We were meeting later because we both had to work late, exercise, etc. After trekking around to a couple bars that were closing (it was only 9:30/10), we decided to just go to his house and sit on the porch to have a drink. We had a great time - it was great to sit in a relaxing atmosphere and chat. For the purposes of full disclosure I did not spend the night.
I have been traveling a lot for work so it was difficult for us to find a time to get together. BDE and I had plans to get together the following Sunday night - I was traveling and we both already had plans for Friday and Saturday nights. Friday night, I was out with a couple girlfriends at a Halloween party and received a text from BDE. He had a charity dinner that night and was finished and wanted to meet me out. After debating and consulting a few guys - I didn't want to seem too available - I decided to meet him out. We had another great night - hanging out and chatting. I ended up spending the night with him (and no, I did not sleep with him - everyone has asked). We hung out for a little while that morning and I sported my Halloween costume on the drive and walk of shame home ;)
Saturday night he called to let me know that he was going to have to work on Sunday night but wanted to get together sometime that week. This should have been my first clue. Unfortunately, I was out of town all week so we weren't able to get together. On Wednesday, I sent a text "Do I need to leave any room in my weekend plans for you ;) " Big mistake...I didn't like the reply. Since I was totally pissed about the reply, I deleted that text, all the others and BDE from my call log. Therefore, I can't quote he is response exactly, plus I was a little drunk when I received it, but the gist of it was that he was crazy at work and this wasn't a good time for him to be dating, he didn't really have time but he would like to stay in touch. Let me interpret this - I am not interested but don't have the balls to say so or at least call and say it - don't send it over text!
I emailed BRF the next day to fill her in and she said she doesn't think I have heard the last of him and there may be some truth to his response since both he and I asked her to wait to set us up until work settled down but she set us up anyway. My theory is 1) old fling/girlfriend came back into the picture or 2) he really wasn't that interested.
I changed his name from BDE to BDJ.
I have been traveling a lot for work so it was difficult for us to find a time to get together. BDE and I had plans to get together the following Sunday night - I was traveling and we both already had plans for Friday and Saturday nights. Friday night, I was out with a couple girlfriends at a Halloween party and received a text from BDE. He had a charity dinner that night and was finished and wanted to meet me out. After debating and consulting a few guys - I didn't want to seem too available - I decided to meet him out. We had another great night - hanging out and chatting. I ended up spending the night with him (and no, I did not sleep with him - everyone has asked). We hung out for a little while that morning and I sported my Halloween costume on the drive and walk of shame home ;)
Saturday night he called to let me know that he was going to have to work on Sunday night but wanted to get together sometime that week. This should have been my first clue. Unfortunately, I was out of town all week so we weren't able to get together. On Wednesday, I sent a text "Do I need to leave any room in my weekend plans for you ;) " Big mistake...I didn't like the reply. Since I was totally pissed about the reply, I deleted that text, all the others and BDE from my call log. Therefore, I can't quote he is response exactly, plus I was a little drunk when I received it, but the gist of it was that he was crazy at work and this wasn't a good time for him to be dating, he didn't really have time but he would like to stay in touch. Let me interpret this - I am not interested but don't have the balls to say so or at least call and say it - don't send it over text!
I emailed BRF the next day to fill her in and she said she doesn't think I have heard the last of him and there may be some truth to his response since both he and I asked her to wait to set us up until work settled down but she set us up anyway. My theory is 1) old fling/girlfriend came back into the picture or 2) he really wasn't that interested.
I changed his name from BDE to BDJ.
Saturday, November 7, 2009
Sorry!
I apologize that I have not updated the blog in a while. Things have been a little crazy. Quick updates with details to follow tomorrow.
1) South Beach and I have talked a few times
2) BDE (blind date extraordinaire) now turned BDJ (blind date jerk) update to follow tomorrow
3) Headed to NYC this week and have tentative drinks scheduled with New York
4) Baseball boy texted last night
5) I have a date tonight with a new guy I met Thursday night (#8)
6) Another guy I met Thursday night has called and texted a few times
Back to football and getting ready for my date
1) South Beach and I have talked a few times
2) BDE (blind date extraordinaire) now turned BDJ (blind date jerk) update to follow tomorrow
3) Headed to NYC this week and have tentative drinks scheduled with New York
4) Baseball boy texted last night
5) I have a date tonight with a new guy I met Thursday night (#8)
6) Another guy I met Thursday night has called and texted a few times
Back to football and getting ready for my date
Sunday, October 25, 2009
A Night of Set-ups
Friday night I arranged for 2 couple friends and me to go to dinner together so I could introduce them socially (not swinger style) to each other. I felt like they would have a lot in common and it would be fun to merge 2 social circles together. Early in the week it was decided that I wasn't going to bring a date. Well...that all changed on Friday at lunch when BRF decided to set me up on a date for that night. It was a friend of hers she has been trying to set me up with for a while. Last week I told her let's just wait until things slow down for me at work and aren't too crazy. My friends don't listen to me much and this time was no the exception. I reluctantly agreed to the date. I was very nervous about the set up - my last blind date with another couple was a disaster.
I don't have a good nickname for this date (J, any help here). Dinner went very well. We had a good set up - round table and 6 people so it was easy for the other 2 couples to chat and my date and I to talk but mix it up too.
As dinner began to wind down, everyone was trying to decide if they were going out or not. BRF and husband decided to go home and the other couple was going out. It seemed like my date was going to join us, but I wasn't positive. Leaving was very awkward. Everyone was saying good bye and getting in cars and my date didn't say bye to me and just got in his car.
Turns out it was just an awkward situation and he met us at the bar. Conversation was good, he was social and mingled well with my friends. We stayed out pretty late and I had a great time with him. He said he would call me on Saturday (dinner was Friday night) and he called when he said he would. Phone conversation was fine and flowed and we have plans to do something on Monday. YAY! This one actually seems like a decent prospect, but I am trying not to get my hopes up.
I don't have a good nickname for this date (J, any help here). Dinner went very well. We had a good set up - round table and 6 people so it was easy for the other 2 couples to chat and my date and I to talk but mix it up too.
As dinner began to wind down, everyone was trying to decide if they were going out or not. BRF and husband decided to go home and the other couple was going out. It seemed like my date was going to join us, but I wasn't positive. Leaving was very awkward. Everyone was saying good bye and getting in cars and my date didn't say bye to me and just got in his car.
Turns out it was just an awkward situation and he met us at the bar. Conversation was good, he was social and mingled well with my friends. We stayed out pretty late and I had a great time with him. He said he would call me on Saturday (dinner was Friday night) and he called when he said he would. Phone conversation was fine and flowed and we have plans to do something on Monday. YAY! This one actually seems like a decent prospect, but I am trying not to get my hopes up.
Thursday, October 22, 2009
My moment weakness paid off
Monday night I received a phone call from a number I didn't have in my phone and from an unusual area code. Normally I let those go to voicemail because I don't want to be caught off guard, but I decided to answer. Of course I didn't catch the name at the beginning of the call and had to ask who it was (at the same time I am frantically trying to look up the area code online) - his response was you don't have my number in your phone... if you remember, I deleted every guys number from my phone a couple weeks ago.
Conversation was slightly awkward at the beginning since I didn't know who he was, but I figured it out...it was South Beach. I was on cloud 9 for a good 24 hours. We talked for a about 30-40 minutes. Right now, he doesn't have any trips planned to Atlanta, but we both hinted around about seeing each other in one city or the other. Not a good sign that no definite plans were made, but at least he called and I obviously hope he calls back.
Looking back, I probably still should not have sent him a message through FB, but at least it prompted him to call me.
Conversation was slightly awkward at the beginning since I didn't know who he was, but I figured it out...it was South Beach. I was on cloud 9 for a good 24 hours. We talked for a about 30-40 minutes. Right now, he doesn't have any trips planned to Atlanta, but we both hinted around about seeing each other in one city or the other. Not a good sign that no definite plans were made, but at least he called and I obviously hope he calls back.
Looking back, I probably still should not have sent him a message through FB, but at least it prompted him to call me.
Tuesday, October 20, 2009
Flirtexting
I am going to accept texting as part of dating in this century. I have to admit, while it is less personal, it is more convenient and by the end of the day, I don't feel like talking on the phone - Outside of work, BFF is practically the only one aside from my fam that I actually hold more than a 2 minute conversation with on the phone. However, one question I keep asking is how do you know when a texting convo is over. I don't want to keep a dead conversation going, but by not responding, I don't want a guy to think I am not interested.
One of the girls that works on my team heard an interview by a 2 girls that wrote a book to help girls texting with guys. See below. And yes, we ordered it today.
Flirtexting: How to Text Your Way to His Heart
Arguing that "boys text; therefore girls need to know how to flirtext," first-time authors (and, presumably, BFFAEs) Goldstein and Baniuszewicz show the next generation of single women how to entertain suitors with the art of text message flirtation. Taking a healthy cut from The Rules ("playing a little hard to get, to get what you want"), the duo schools readers on timing replies, canceling dates and, perhaps most importantly, how to avoid "mis-texting." Dissecting every possible text-based interaction (often with multiple examples), Goldstein and Baniuszewicz's overwrought guidebook will be received, depending on one's perspective, as either indispensable or hopelessly immature.
Monday, October 19, 2009
Band Guy
Ok...someone in a band would normally not be my type at all, but the guy in the band from One Pace over that I gave my number to on Thursday night has called a couple times. His voicemails are so adorable I really want to go out with him. He left me a message last week so I would have his number in my phone and have his number when he called. He called again last night and left the cutest message.
I hate talking on the phone because it uses up 1st date conversation, but I called him back tonight. Hopefully he won't be like the rest and will actually return my call!
I hate talking on the phone because it uses up 1st date conversation, but I called him back tonight. Hopefully he won't be like the rest and will actually return my call!
Confession
Over the past couple weeks, I have tried to live by the "He's just not that into you" philosophy. I deleted every guys number from my phone to eliminate the possibility of drunk texting or dialing. If a guy likes me, he will call - no excecptions. However, for some reason, I have still been obsessed about South Beach - I am not sure why. Maybe he was the 1st guy I was interested in and he wasn't interested back???
Another thing you should know is that I don't mix dating, guys and facebook. Unlike a lot of people, I don't facebook or google people before I go out with them. 1) I am a purist, I would not want someone making judgements about me based on my FB page so I don't do that to them either 2) I would probably accidentally say something I found out about them on FB that they had not told me.
On to my confession...
I looked South Beach up on FB and Saturday night when I got home (slightly buzzed) I sent him a message via facebook - not a friend request, just a message. Good news is that he responded and we exchanged a few messages, bad news is that it is confirmed - no interested :(
I quiz and harass one of the guys I work with constantly about what does this mean, what are guys thinking, etc. I sent him the FB exchange and his response...South Beach is sleeping with another girl and not into you. Ouch! So I have to face the fact and forget about the stupid crush I have on a guy I don't even know.
Another thing you should know is that I don't mix dating, guys and facebook. Unlike a lot of people, I don't facebook or google people before I go out with them. 1) I am a purist, I would not want someone making judgements about me based on my FB page so I don't do that to them either 2) I would probably accidentally say something I found out about them on FB that they had not told me.
On to my confession...
I looked South Beach up on FB and Saturday night when I got home (slightly buzzed) I sent him a message via facebook - not a friend request, just a message. Good news is that he responded and we exchanged a few messages, bad news is that it is confirmed - no interested :(
I quiz and harass one of the guys I work with constantly about what does this mean, what are guys thinking, etc. I sent him the FB exchange and his response...South Beach is sleeping with another girl and not into you. Ouch! So I have to face the fact and forget about the stupid crush I have on a guy I don't even know.
Saturday, October 17, 2009
Where do things stand?
I thought I would catch you on a few of my more recent encounters. Nothing exciting but a few people have asked for updates.
North Carolina emailed and texted this week. I received an email from him on Tuesday saying he was thinking about me and wanted to see how things were. The next night I received a text that said he was at the beach for the week and, I assume jokingly, said I should hop on a plane and join him.
Old Friend and I didn't meet up for drinks the week after the unexpected night. He was sick that week. We have talked a few times. Thank goodness that things haven't been weird, we are just back to being friends.
I still haven't heard anything from U2 - not that I expected to, but just wanted to close the loop on him.
UGA and I emailed a couple times the week after the game, but there wasn't anything there and the email exchanges fizzled out.
North Carolina emailed and texted this week. I received an email from him on Tuesday saying he was thinking about me and wanted to see how things were. The next night I received a text that said he was at the beach for the week and, I assume jokingly, said I should hop on a plane and join him.
Old Friend and I didn't meet up for drinks the week after the unexpected night. He was sick that week. We have talked a few times. Thank goodness that things haven't been weird, we are just back to being friends.
I still haven't heard anything from U2 - not that I expected to, but just wanted to close the loop on him.
UGA and I emailed a couple times the week after the game, but there wasn't anything there and the email exchanges fizzled out.
Bourbon
I haven't had bourbon since college and now I remember why. Thursday night, I attended an event sponsored by Makers Mark and the following is a recap of the night...
After the MM event, I went out with a group of work friends to the Regis. I met a cute guy in town from New York. He was very nice and we set up a date to meet for coffee Friday morning since he was only in town until Friday afternoon (I am a dork, the coffee date was my idea). BFF said instead of 25 1st dates, I should try and meet 25 guys, all from different states - so far I have FL, TN, NC, GA & NY.We left the Regis and headed to 5P. That's when things went south.
- I fell on the ground in 5p. I didn't trip, I was so drunk, I literally just fell down and some 21 year old girl had to help me up. I now have a swollen knee and am covered in bruises. Will someone please remind me how old I am????
- I have bruises on my shins from standing on the front row and banging them on the stage while listening to the band at 1 pace over. Apparently I really loved the band because I had a message from one of the band members when I woke up on Friday. I don't remember even meeting the band members much less giving them my number. NICE.
- I met another guy that I thought was cute, fun, great conversationalist - or at least this is what I thought in my drunken stouper. I will call him Medical Sales since that's his job. I hung out with him until the wee hours of the morning. Great kisser! Have no idea what his name is.
I will NEVER drink bourbon again for the rest of my life.
Sunday, October 11, 2009
I am SOOOOO Frustrated
I am very annoyed with dating right now. There are all these rules and even when you follow them, it still makes no sense. U2 boy did not call today which totally irritates me. I don't understand what is happening post meeting guys. Maybe it is God's way of telling me not to date right now.
Ran through the entire situation with a single guy friend - reviewing word for word the text exchange between U2 guy and me and he didn't see any dating fouls in my responses. His solution is waiting 1 day to respond. He thinks it was just an alcohol induced ask out which does wonders for my self esteem.
I am throwing myself into work for now and am even think about dating.
Ran through the entire situation with a single guy friend - reviewing word for word the text exchange between U2 guy and me and he didn't see any dating fouls in my responses. His solution is waiting 1 day to respond. He thinks it was just an alcohol induced ask out which does wonders for my self esteem.
I am throwing myself into work for now and am even think about dating.
Wednesday, October 7, 2009
U2
Work has been insane this week between not working this past weekend and leaving to go to the beach this week, I have more on my plate than I can handle. Last night I was going to stay really late and pound out a few projects, but I received a text from one of my single girlfriends. She had extra tickets for the U2 concert. The great debate – stay at work and finish my projects or go to a really fun concert.
Sunday as I was prowling around on the internet, I ran across a quote that has stuck with me:
"In 20 years, you will be more disappointed with what you didn't do than by what you did" -Mark Twain
So…I went to the concert. Since my friend has so many extra tixs, I invited one of my good guy friends from work to go with me. The concert was awesome!
Now to the interesting part…my SGF invited a guy that she has seen off and on for a while and a few of his friends. One of his friends caught my eye. SGF confirmed he was single. Problem…I was with my work friend and I didn’t want cute U2 guy to think I was on a date with my guy friend. After the concert it took us about an hour to get back to Buckhead (we were using Atlanta’s wonderful transit system – MARTA), but it was a great opportunity to hang out with cute U2 guy. We all went for drinks afterwards and he and I seemed to hit it off. As the night was wrapping up, there wasn’t an opportunity for us to chat one on one and I was leaving with my work guy friend since we rode together. Being my normal forward self, I gave my business card to SGF and told her if cute U2 guy asked about me to give him my card. Within 10 minutes of getting home, I had a text from SGF and cute U2 guy !!! SGF’s text said he had already texted his friend about me and U2’s text said it was nice to meet me and he would love to see me again. We have tentative plans to go out Sunday night!!!
Funny how things work, every time I get super frustrated with the whole dating game and say I am giving it a break for a while, I end up meeting someone new. I am off to the Dtown and the beach so you may not hear from me until next week but I hope to have a update U2 PLUS I owe you updates on a few other guys.
Sunday as I was prowling around on the internet, I ran across a quote that has stuck with me:
"In 20 years, you will be more disappointed with what you didn't do than by what you did" -Mark Twain
So…I went to the concert. Since my friend has so many extra tixs, I invited one of my good guy friends from work to go with me. The concert was awesome!
Now to the interesting part…my SGF invited a guy that she has seen off and on for a while and a few of his friends. One of his friends caught my eye. SGF confirmed he was single. Problem…I was with my work friend and I didn’t want cute U2 guy to think I was on a date with my guy friend. After the concert it took us about an hour to get back to Buckhead (we were using Atlanta’s wonderful transit system – MARTA), but it was a great opportunity to hang out with cute U2 guy. We all went for drinks afterwards and he and I seemed to hit it off. As the night was wrapping up, there wasn’t an opportunity for us to chat one on one and I was leaving with my work guy friend since we rode together. Being my normal forward self, I gave my business card to SGF and told her if cute U2 guy asked about me to give him my card. Within 10 minutes of getting home, I had a text from SGF and cute U2 guy !!! SGF’s text said he had already texted his friend about me and U2’s text said it was nice to meet me and he would love to see me again. We have tentative plans to go out Sunday night!!!
Funny how things work, every time I get super frustrated with the whole dating game and say I am giving it a break for a while, I end up meeting someone new. I am off to the Dtown and the beach so you may not hear from me until next week but I hope to have a update U2 PLUS I owe you updates on a few other guys.
Monday, October 5, 2009
UT Game
This weekend I ventured up to Knoxville for the Auburn/UT game. It was a fun weekend and great to hang out with college friends I haven't seen in a while. WDE! The game wasn't pretty but Auburn won and a full day of tailgating only added to the fun. No offense to the UT fans out there, but the outfits kept us entertained - the UT snuggie and orange and white checked overalls made my day. As soon as I find my camera cord, I will upload the pics. I also have a fun new shot to take next time I am out...Skittles. It is made up of all the flavored vodkas and cranberry juice....YUMMY!
Not too much to post on the guy front. My dear friend from Knoxville, introduced me to a work colleague. He was very nice and totally hysterical. We had a good time on Friday night, I got in the cuddle time I blogged about last week. He hung out with us at the tailgate and after the game too, but that's about all I have to report. Any votes on if I can count it as a 1/2 date???
The fun (and frustrating) thing about dating right now is figuring out what I like and don't like. Its great to identify characteristics I know I am not interested in, but it makes me realize that finding someone with that meets my criteria is going to be very hard . Maybe I am a dating snob just like I am a restaurant snob :)
All and all it was a fun weekend and I am looking forward to the next away game Auburn trip next year.
Just an FYI...I am headed out on vacation this week so there may not be another post for a week or so. I know there have been a few request for me to blog more frequently and I will make it a goal to do so. Trust me, I want to have more to blog about, it means my life is more interesting.
Not too much to post on the guy front. My dear friend from Knoxville, introduced me to a work colleague. He was very nice and totally hysterical. We had a good time on Friday night, I got in the cuddle time I blogged about last week. He hung out with us at the tailgate and after the game too, but that's about all I have to report. Any votes on if I can count it as a 1/2 date???
The fun (and frustrating) thing about dating right now is figuring out what I like and don't like. Its great to identify characteristics I know I am not interested in, but it makes me realize that finding someone with that meets my criteria is going to be very hard . Maybe I am a dating snob just like I am a restaurant snob :)
All and all it was a fun weekend and I am looking forward to the next away game Auburn trip next year.
Just an FYI...I am headed out on vacation this week so there may not be another post for a week or so. I know there have been a few request for me to blog more frequently and I will make it a goal to do so. Trust me, I want to have more to blog about, it means my life is more interesting.
Sunday, September 27, 2009
What I Learned this Week
1) Never go on a blind date with another couple
2) Always go on 1st dates with an escape plan
3) Don't commit to an entire day blind date (see #2)
4) Dating is exhausting
I didn't realize how exhausting dating was going to be. I am worn out from this week. Right now, I want to lay on the couch and cuddle up with a with a guy who:
I don't have to ask questions to,
tell him about myself,
stress about where he likes me or not, or
worry about if he is going to kiss me, is it going to be awkward, etc
I just want to hang out, cuddle and watch TV. No talking required. I have a feeling that is a long, long way down the road for me, but that's what I what I want right now.
2) Always go on 1st dates with an escape plan
3) Don't commit to an entire day blind date (see #2)
4) Dating is exhausting
I didn't realize how exhausting dating was going to be. I am worn out from this week. Right now, I want to lay on the couch and cuddle up with a with a guy who:
I don't have to ask questions to,
tell him about myself,
stress about where he likes me or not, or
worry about if he is going to kiss me, is it going to be awkward, etc
I just want to hang out, cuddle and watch TV. No talking required. I have a feeling that is a long, long way down the road for me, but that's what I what I want right now.
Have I Lost My Mind?
A friend of a friend sent me an email this week asking if I would be interested in going on a date to a UGA game with her best guy friend. Because at this point, I have nothing to lose and want to go on dates, I said yes.
Yes, you heard me. I agreed to go on a blind date that required at a 2 hour car ride each way, a 4 hour football game PLUS tailgating time. This is coming from a person that doesn’t even like for her dates to pick her up so she doesn’t have to talk to them in the car and use up precious conversation pieces on the way to a date and to avoid an awkward ride home if the date sucks.
The date called and followed up in an email. His emails were pretty funny all week so I felt fine about having so many hours to fill for a 1st blind date.
We were going to the game with another couple who were only on their second date so it was bound to be an interesting day. It poured (not hard rain) pouring, at one point I thought we were going to drive through a tornado, the entire drive to Athens. Of course, I didn’t think anything about bringing an umbrella, raincoat, nothing so I am totally unprepared for the weather. Luckily, my date was a total gentleman and prepared with a raincoat for me. He also had my fav beer, orange vodka for mixing with sprite during the game, etc. Because of the weather, we tailgated in the car. We were in a Tahoe with captain’s chairs so it wasn’t too crowded. The conversation was ok on the way up to Athens, not continuous or any crazy connection, but it was fine.
Funny story of the night…I wore thong shoes that had a canvas like bottom. Walking to the stadium was like wading through a river. At one point I looked down and my left shoe had soap suds all over it. I forgot that I had used spray in way to clean the bottom of the shoes and obviously didn’t wash all the spray and wash off. Anyway…it was funny to me but probably a “you have to be there moment.”
Our seats were club level in a box like setting so the weather had no impact on the enjoyment of the game. I am an avid sports fan – especially football, so it was fun to go to the game even though I didn’t have a vested interest in the outcome, plus I had a chance to show off my football knowledge.
All in all, the date was fine and nothing terrible. I was really tired by the end of the game and since it was a night game we didn’t get back to Atlanta until midnight. He was super nice, very funny and a total southern gentlemen but I see myself being friends with him and hanging out more than a romantic interest.
Yes, you heard me. I agreed to go on a blind date that required at a 2 hour car ride each way, a 4 hour football game PLUS tailgating time. This is coming from a person that doesn’t even like for her dates to pick her up so she doesn’t have to talk to them in the car and use up precious conversation pieces on the way to a date and to avoid an awkward ride home if the date sucks.
The date called and followed up in an email. His emails were pretty funny all week so I felt fine about having so many hours to fill for a 1st blind date.
We were going to the game with another couple who were only on their second date so it was bound to be an interesting day. It poured (not hard rain) pouring, at one point I thought we were going to drive through a tornado, the entire drive to Athens. Of course, I didn’t think anything about bringing an umbrella, raincoat, nothing so I am totally unprepared for the weather. Luckily, my date was a total gentleman and prepared with a raincoat for me. He also had my fav beer, orange vodka for mixing with sprite during the game, etc. Because of the weather, we tailgated in the car. We were in a Tahoe with captain’s chairs so it wasn’t too crowded. The conversation was ok on the way up to Athens, not continuous or any crazy connection, but it was fine.
Funny story of the night…I wore thong shoes that had a canvas like bottom. Walking to the stadium was like wading through a river. At one point I looked down and my left shoe had soap suds all over it. I forgot that I had used spray in way to clean the bottom of the shoes and obviously didn’t wash all the spray and wash off. Anyway…it was funny to me but probably a “you have to be there moment.”
Our seats were club level in a box like setting so the weather had no impact on the enjoyment of the game. I am an avid sports fan – especially football, so it was fun to go to the game even though I didn’t have a vested interest in the outcome, plus I had a chance to show off my football knowledge.
All in all, the date was fine and nothing terrible. I was really tired by the end of the game and since it was a night game we didn’t get back to Atlanta until midnight. He was super nice, very funny and a total southern gentlemen but I see myself being friends with him and hanging out more than a romantic interest.
Don't do Double Date Blind Dates
One of my dear work friends set me up on a blind date with one of her husband’s friends. The original plan was to go to a martinis & swing dancing event with my friend and her husband. To an event like this, I felt like it was fine and would be more fun to go on a double date with another couple. HOWEVER, plans changed.
Due to the traffic in the Atl on Friday, which can often alter plans, everyone was running so late, it was decided we were just going to dinner instead because we were going to be too late to the event. Everyone met at my friend’s house (I was spending the night with them so I didn’t have to drive all the back to my house). From the second I walked in, my blind date was totally not interested in me. AT ALL. Not that I think am am hot stuff (only on certain nites), but he had absolutely no interest in me at all and didn’t pretend to – I can count on one hand how many times in the few hours we were together that he made eye contact. It was not a fun night. We went to dinner and the couple we were with and my date talked about all their mutual friends, old times, etc. I had little opportunity to jump in on the conversation. Each time my friend and I tried to shift the conversation so I could join in, it swayed back to something I could participate in.
It was very sweet of them to set me up and the night may have been very different if we had gone swing dancing, but this is a date with could not end soon enough.
Due to the traffic in the Atl on Friday, which can often alter plans, everyone was running so late, it was decided we were just going to dinner instead because we were going to be too late to the event. Everyone met at my friend’s house (I was spending the night with them so I didn’t have to drive all the back to my house). From the second I walked in, my blind date was totally not interested in me. AT ALL. Not that I think am am hot stuff (only on certain nites), but he had absolutely no interest in me at all and didn’t pretend to – I can count on one hand how many times in the few hours we were together that he made eye contact. It was not a fun night. We went to dinner and the couple we were with and my date talked about all their mutual friends, old times, etc. I had little opportunity to jump in on the conversation. Each time my friend and I tried to shift the conversation so I could join in, it swayed back to something I could participate in.
It was very sweet of them to set me up and the night may have been very different if we had gone swing dancing, but this is a date with could not end soon enough.
The Unexpected
Given all the random events and situations that have occurred over the past few months, I should be surprised by much, but I am taken off guard, confused and baffled by this situation.
An old friend of mine, that is probably more of an acquaintance than friend, and I have been trying to meet up for drinks for several weeks now, but our schedules haven’t jived. Old friend is someone I know through my ex-husband’s circle of friend – again not escaping the past.
We finally decided on a night to meet up for drinks which was planned for next week, but we were able to randomly meet up Thursday night of this week. He was out with friends and I met up with them after a work happy hour and dinner.
I will spare you the details of the night, but as the night progressed, I felt an odd vibe that Old Friend and I weren’t on the same page. I totally thought we were meeting up as friends, we are both recently divorced (me a lot more recent than him), see each other out, looking to expand our friend network, I have even tried to set him up with SWF, etc. To make a long story short, the night ended with us hanging out on his couch and him kissing me.
It has never even crossed my mind that would happen. Not that he isn’t a great guy and super cute, I have just never looked at him that way. I chalked it up to a late night event, but since then, he has sent several random texted, last night was fun, what are you up, stay in Athens tonight and go out with us (see next post to understand), etc. I have no idea if this will go anywhere. I am not sure what to even think, but I am going to roll with the situation.
I am not sure if he and I are still on for drinks this week but I have a feeling while it may not be this week or next, there will be more to come on this topic.
An old friend of mine, that is probably more of an acquaintance than friend, and I have been trying to meet up for drinks for several weeks now, but our schedules haven’t jived. Old friend is someone I know through my ex-husband’s circle of friend – again not escaping the past.
We finally decided on a night to meet up for drinks which was planned for next week, but we were able to randomly meet up Thursday night of this week. He was out with friends and I met up with them after a work happy hour and dinner.
I will spare you the details of the night, but as the night progressed, I felt an odd vibe that Old Friend and I weren’t on the same page. I totally thought we were meeting up as friends, we are both recently divorced (me a lot more recent than him), see each other out, looking to expand our friend network, I have even tried to set him up with SWF, etc. To make a long story short, the night ended with us hanging out on his couch and him kissing me.
It has never even crossed my mind that would happen. Not that he isn’t a great guy and super cute, I have just never looked at him that way. I chalked it up to a late night event, but since then, he has sent several random texted, last night was fun, what are you up, stay in Athens tonight and go out with us (see next post to understand), etc. I have no idea if this will go anywhere. I am not sure what to even think, but I am going to roll with the situation.
I am not sure if he and I are still on for drinks this week but I have a feeling while it may not be this week or next, there will be more to come on this topic.
Boss's Choice - North Carolina
So my boss set me up with a guy from NC. He is friends with my boss & another member of the executive committee at work and they both thought it would be a good match up. NC also works for one of my company's clients.
NC and I met for drinks at my fav watering hole, "The Regis" (haha, I am totally sick of going there but seem to end up there all the time). Of course with me nothing can be norm...he was in town for a couple days and had one of his investors with him. He still wanted to meet up, but had to bring his investor with him. Slightly weird that on a first, blind date I am going with my date and an investor in his company, but what is it going to hurt. Luckily, SBF pulled through in a clutch situation and met us for a couple drinks so it would be four people and not an odd three. I was very surprised and appreciative.
NC was a total southern gentleman, a wonderful accent and a great story teller. I really liked him a lot. He kept the entire group entertained, conversation flowing, etc. One of the characteristics I am looking for right.
While we were at The Regis, my ex-husband's father's best friend walked in. Seems like a long connection but it is not. We went on several family vacations together, spent holidays together,etc. I have seen him several times since the "D" and he has been nothing but nice and expressed that as long as I was happy all is good. I excuse myself from the table to say hello and speak to him and low and behold NC walks up to say hi as well. He knows him. NC is from over 5 hours away and another state and knows my ex-husband's father's best friend. Really! Can I please have my own life and leave the past behind me. Not a big deal and it broke the news that I was divorced. It's always weird about when to tell someone I am divorced but that situation took care of it for me.
SBF left fairly early in the night and the investor left a little while after that. NC ended up getting pretty drunk which was a little bit of a turn off for me, but in his defense, he had a really bad day.
He asked me to a fundraiser the next night, but it ended up not being a date thing and he was leaving town immediately after the benefit so it didn't work out, but he has already told me when he will be back in town and yes, my favorite has texted a few times. If he calls and comes back into town again, he is worth going out with again.
NC and I met for drinks at my fav watering hole, "The Regis" (haha, I am totally sick of going there but seem to end up there all the time). Of course with me nothing can be norm...he was in town for a couple days and had one of his investors with him. He still wanted to meet up, but had to bring his investor with him. Slightly weird that on a first, blind date I am going with my date and an investor in his company, but what is it going to hurt. Luckily, SBF pulled through in a clutch situation and met us for a couple drinks so it would be four people and not an odd three. I was very surprised and appreciative.
NC was a total southern gentleman, a wonderful accent and a great story teller. I really liked him a lot. He kept the entire group entertained, conversation flowing, etc. One of the characteristics I am looking for right.
While we were at The Regis, my ex-husband's father's best friend walked in. Seems like a long connection but it is not. We went on several family vacations together, spent holidays together,etc. I have seen him several times since the "D" and he has been nothing but nice and expressed that as long as I was happy all is good. I excuse myself from the table to say hello and speak to him and low and behold NC walks up to say hi as well. He knows him. NC is from over 5 hours away and another state and knows my ex-husband's father's best friend. Really! Can I please have my own life and leave the past behind me. Not a big deal and it broke the news that I was divorced. It's always weird about when to tell someone I am divorced but that situation took care of it for me.
SBF left fairly early in the night and the investor left a little while after that. NC ended up getting pretty drunk which was a little bit of a turn off for me, but in his defense, he had a really bad day.
He asked me to a fundraiser the next night, but it ended up not being a date thing and he was leaving town immediately after the benefit so it didn't work out, but he has already told me when he will be back in town and yes, my favorite has texted a few times. If he calls and comes back into town again, he is worth going out with again.
Catching up
A lot has transpired since my post last weekend. First, I have experienced two traumatic health events. Don't worry, everything is fine. I am on tons of meds for the first and the second was a one day event and I have recovered. Despite the speed bumps of my health, which seem to continue to haunt me, I managed to rack up 3 1st dates this week and had an interested unexpected hook up. Settle in for the update.
Sunday, September 20, 2009
No good news
Only bad news to report in this update. Unfortunately, I have to admit my failures as well as successes on this blog and I hate failure!!! This whole dating and meeting people situation is harder than I thought - especially when you work a lot and have very few single friends. Married people...you have to know more single people to set me up with!
1) No word from South Beach. I am dropping the whole South Beach obsession after this blog post.
2) The guy I was supposed to meet out last week never called to confirm plans. 2 blow offs within the month SUCKS!
Still waiting to see about the whole boss setting me up situation. Hopefully it will work out, but we'll have to see.
I am forging ahead and hope October will be a better month... just need to get through the rest of September and put myself back out there. I am staying positive. On that note, congrats to my AU Tigers on their win last night. It wasn't pretty, but a win's a win :)
1) No word from South Beach. I am dropping the whole South Beach obsession after this blog post.
2) The guy I was supposed to meet out last week never called to confirm plans. 2 blow offs within the month SUCKS!
Still waiting to see about the whole boss setting me up situation. Hopefully it will work out, but we'll have to see.
I am forging ahead and hope October will be a better month... just need to get through the rest of September and put myself back out there. I am staying positive. On that note, congrats to my AU Tigers on their win last night. It wasn't pretty, but a win's a win :)
Friday, September 18, 2009
Top 10 list of what I am looking for in a guy
First things first…I am not looking for a serious relationship any time soon, but everyone keeps asking me what kind of person I like and my therapist suggested I make a list of the qualities I am looking for in someone (and write them down) so I can revisit to make sure I don’t stray too far from what I want
Here we go…
1) Gainfully employed – preferably a white collar occupation
2) Independent – I don’t do needy. I like my space and freedom and do not want to be with someone who is insecure, needs hand holding. Respect my time and space and I will respect yours.
3) Athletic or at least takes time to work out and keep his body in shape
4) Social – I need a guy that can go to a party, carry on a conversation and doesn’t need a babysitter the entire night. I want to be with the life of the party, the guy people want to invite because he is fun and keeps the conversations going and interesting.
5) Family oriented – this does not mean I want to be with a guy that wants/has kids. It is important to me to be with someone who has a good relationship with his family (including siblings). In the event that I introduce someone to my family, it is important that they slide right in to my environment and feel comfortable with my family.
6) Has a hobby – Back to #2, I don’t want to spend all my time with someone and need my space. Have a hobby that I don’t participate in is a necessity. It gives me the time to do things I enjoy
7) Religious – I am not saying you have to be holier than thou, just have some religious inclinations or be spiritual.
8) Strong - not necessarily physically but emotionally. I have a strong personality and need to be with someone that is stronger than me. Yes, as much as I hate to admit it, at the end of the day, I want someone to take care of me.
9) No addictions – cannot be an alcoholic, recovering drug addict or smoker (cigar smoking is ok)
10)Likes to experience new things– I am up for almost anything. We only live life once and I don’t want to miss out on anything. I want to be with someone who isn’t afraid to travel to new places, try new restaurants, talk to strangers, do something unusual. What fun is it to be confined by the rules and expectations of others. If you feel like doing something, do it (unless it is harmful to others).
Here we go…
1) Gainfully employed – preferably a white collar occupation
2) Independent – I don’t do needy. I like my space and freedom and do not want to be with someone who is insecure, needs hand holding. Respect my time and space and I will respect yours.
3) Athletic or at least takes time to work out and keep his body in shape
4) Social – I need a guy that can go to a party, carry on a conversation and doesn’t need a babysitter the entire night. I want to be with the life of the party, the guy people want to invite because he is fun and keeps the conversations going and interesting.
5) Family oriented – this does not mean I want to be with a guy that wants/has kids. It is important to me to be with someone who has a good relationship with his family (including siblings). In the event that I introduce someone to my family, it is important that they slide right in to my environment and feel comfortable with my family.
6) Has a hobby – Back to #2, I don’t want to spend all my time with someone and need my space. Have a hobby that I don’t participate in is a necessity. It gives me the time to do things I enjoy
7) Religious – I am not saying you have to be holier than thou, just have some religious inclinations or be spiritual.
8) Strong - not necessarily physically but emotionally. I have a strong personality and need to be with someone that is stronger than me. Yes, as much as I hate to admit it, at the end of the day, I want someone to take care of me.
9) No addictions – cannot be an alcoholic, recovering drug addict or smoker (cigar smoking is ok)
10)Likes to experience new things– I am up for almost anything. We only live life once and I don’t want to miss out on anything. I want to be with someone who isn’t afraid to travel to new places, try new restaurants, talk to strangers, do something unusual. What fun is it to be confined by the rules and expectations of others. If you feel like doing something, do it (unless it is harmful to others).
Tuesday, September 15, 2009
I'm Back!
I am back! Hopefully I haven't lost the interest of too many people during my short break (I doubt it since I am sure only a couple people follow the blog). I have been consumed with work & BFF's wedding. Her wedding was this weekend - it was beautiful & amazing! Only downside is there were not any cute single guys at the wedding :( bummer. Actually there were three, but one friend just broke up with , one is dating another friend and I am pretty sure the third hasn't made it past puberty.
So what has been going on...not much, but I am jumping back in the game.
Update on South Beach...he texted me the night after we met a few times, but I haven't heard from him since that night. I wanted to chalk it up to Labor Day, but at this point I have written him off, deleted him from my phone, but part of me still hopes he calls when he is coming back to the ATL.
My boss is setting me up with a client (not one of mine obviously) who lives out of town. I am beginning to think this is my preference. If I don't like them, slim chance of running into them again and if I do like them, there is a buffer so I don't have to see too much if them and it keeps things interesting. I will keep you posted on the progress of my boss setting me up. Please don't think I am desperate for dates since I have resorted to my boss setting me up - he is young and fun.
I have a tentative date tomorrow night with a guy I met out a month or so ago . We talked last Friday and penciled in tomorrow. Hopefully he calls tonight to firm up plans - if not, it will be my second blow off in two weeks. Yikes! Things are on the downturn for me if that happens.
Other than that, I have a couple set ups friends are working on, but not much going on. I am traveling for the next several weekends and am worried about my date pipeline! At this point, I doubt there is anyway I am going to hit 25 1st dates, or 25 dates period, but I am still working to achieve the goal. Feel free to send any single, eligible guys my way.
Off to yoga.
So what has been going on...not much, but I am jumping back in the game.
Update on South Beach...he texted me the night after we met a few times, but I haven't heard from him since that night. I wanted to chalk it up to Labor Day, but at this point I have written him off, deleted him from my phone, but part of me still hopes he calls when he is coming back to the ATL.
My boss is setting me up with a client (not one of mine obviously) who lives out of town. I am beginning to think this is my preference. If I don't like them, slim chance of running into them again and if I do like them, there is a buffer so I don't have to see too much if them and it keeps things interesting. I will keep you posted on the progress of my boss setting me up. Please don't think I am desperate for dates since I have resorted to my boss setting me up - he is young and fun.
I have a tentative date tomorrow night with a guy I met out a month or so ago . We talked last Friday and penciled in tomorrow. Hopefully he calls tonight to firm up plans - if not, it will be my second blow off in two weeks. Yikes! Things are on the downturn for me if that happens.
Other than that, I have a couple set ups friends are working on, but not much going on. I am traveling for the next several weekends and am worried about my date pipeline! At this point, I doubt there is anyway I am going to hit 25 1st dates, or 25 dates period, but I am still working to achieve the goal. Feel free to send any single, eligible guys my way.
Off to yoga.
Thursday, September 3, 2009
South Beach
Last night I met a great guy at happy hour. I noticed him pretty early into happy hour, but I never saw him look my way so I didn’t think he was interested. A friend of mine happened to be at the bar with another group and she knew I thought he was cute. She introduced herself (telling him I was interested) and me to him. We chatted for a while over drinks and he invited me to dinner.
We went to dinner with my friend and one of his co-workers. After dinner they went home and he and I stayed at the bar for a few more drinks. When that bar shut down, we went to the Ritz for another drink and talked for a while. I don’t even remember what time I went home but it was late. I had a great time with him and really, really hope he calls. He sent me a text on his way to the airport this morning telling me it was nice to meet me. If he wasn’t interested, why would he send a text? Right…
He lives in South Beach and was in town for business. Said he comes back often so maybe something could work out. I am actually excited about this one…cute, mid-30s, social, picked out a good wine, funny, has a job, likes to travel, likes to go out, shall I go on?
BTW…I am counting dinner as one of my dates – know it’s a stretch, but he did ask me to dinner.
We went to dinner with my friend and one of his co-workers. After dinner they went home and he and I stayed at the bar for a few more drinks. When that bar shut down, we went to the Ritz for another drink and talked for a while. I don’t even remember what time I went home but it was late. I had a great time with him and really, really hope he calls. He sent me a text on his way to the airport this morning telling me it was nice to meet me. If he wasn’t interested, why would he send a text? Right…
He lives in South Beach and was in town for business. Said he comes back often so maybe something could work out. I am actually excited about this one…cute, mid-30s, social, picked out a good wine, funny, has a job, likes to travel, likes to go out, shall I go on?
BTW…I am counting dinner as one of my dates – know it’s a stretch, but he did ask me to dinner.
Sunday, August 30, 2009
Build Ups
I have always had a list of guys that I have had crushes on and wondered what it would be like to hook up with them. Well...now that I am single, I have the opportunity to check these crushes off the list. With each of my crushes, I have an image in my mind of what it would be like if we ever went out or hooked up - a passionate, romantic encounter.
Last night I went out with some friends and that group included a guy I have had a crush on for a long time. We have always been super flirty with each other but it has been innocent because we knew it could not go anywhere. Last night was weird because it was the first time I have been around him since the divorce and I knew the flirting could lead to something more. At the end of the night, everyone went home and my crush and I were left at the bar together. We shared a cab home and I was probably more forward than I should have been - courtesy of my good friend Grey Goose- about if we were going our separate ways or going back to his house. Verdict...his house. Nothing really happened and we were both pretty drunk, but I was super disappointed in the encounter :( It was a far cry from the passionate, we can finally hook up after all these years encounter I imagined. I don't regret things because everything happens for a reason, but I certain wish I made better choices (damn those vodka drinks).
Point is...I built up a scenario in my head for so long and now that it happened it was a let down. Good news is it is checked off my list and I can move onto the next.
Last night I went out with some friends and that group included a guy I have had a crush on for a long time. We have always been super flirty with each other but it has been innocent because we knew it could not go anywhere. Last night was weird because it was the first time I have been around him since the divorce and I knew the flirting could lead to something more. At the end of the night, everyone went home and my crush and I were left at the bar together. We shared a cab home and I was probably more forward than I should have been - courtesy of my good friend Grey Goose- about if we were going our separate ways or going back to his house. Verdict...his house. Nothing really happened and we were both pretty drunk, but I was super disappointed in the encounter :( It was a far cry from the passionate, we can finally hook up after all these years encounter I imagined. I don't regret things because everything happens for a reason, but I certain wish I made better choices (damn those vodka drinks).
Point is...I built up a scenario in my head for so long and now that it happened it was a let down. Good news is it is checked off my list and I can move onto the next.
Wednesday, August 26, 2009
Listen to the entire recording
Since my life has been boring due to my workaholic nature lately, listen to these 2 voicemails. At least this didn't happen to me!
http://melodymaker.posterous.com/the-reason-some-girls-stay-single-very-funny
http://melodymaker.posterous.com/the-reason-some-girls-stay-single-very-funny
Thursday, August 20, 2009
Run In
Monday nite I went out with Blind Date Attorney for a 2nd date. Decided he wasn't as cute as I first thought PLUS the conversation was a bore. Granted I have been super stressed with work, had just come from the doctor and have a lot of other things going on so I wasn't in the best mood and am I probably am not giving it a fair shot BUT... I didn't have a good time. Don't get me wrong, he is very nice, it's just not the right time in my life to put work into liking someone. Dating takes a lot of energy - it's like going on a job interview.
If you read about my visit to the allergist, I fessed up about my arm and it was no big deal. Glad I didn't wear long sleeves because sweating would have been worse than the welts on my arms. Water seems to be the theme of our date because we were sitting outside and it started raining.
Anyway, I decided I wasn't interested in going out with him again and I am pretty sure he caught onto the vibe. He hasn't called yet. Well...tonight a girlfriend and I were at our fav sushi restaurant (which isn't a popular spot or one that many know about even though its fabulous) and he walked in. I don't think he saw me and I didn't go up to him.
I should probably get used to these run in because if I go on 25 1st dates, I am going to run into a few of them. Atlanta is a big small town.
Sorry I am behind on blogging. The next few weeks may be slow because things are crazy at work. This weekend is my BFF's bachelorette party. Good times! There will be a post about it next week.
If you read about my visit to the allergist, I fessed up about my arm and it was no big deal. Glad I didn't wear long sleeves because sweating would have been worse than the welts on my arms. Water seems to be the theme of our date because we were sitting outside and it started raining.
Anyway, I decided I wasn't interested in going out with him again and I am pretty sure he caught onto the vibe. He hasn't called yet. Well...tonight a girlfriend and I were at our fav sushi restaurant (which isn't a popular spot or one that many know about even though its fabulous) and he walked in. I don't think he saw me and I didn't go up to him.
I should probably get used to these run in because if I go on 25 1st dates, I am going to run into a few of them. Atlanta is a big small town.
Sorry I am behind on blogging. The next few weeks may be slow because things are crazy at work. This weekend is my BFF's bachelorette party. Good times! There will be a post about it next week.
Monday, August 17, 2009
Welts
In the past month, I have had 2 very bad sinus infections so today I went to the allergist to see what was setting off my sinuses. For those who have never been, they prick your back 20 something times with a diluted substance to see if you are allergic to grass, dust, pollen, etc. My back test came back negative - allergic to nothing so they had to do a stronger version of the test on my right arm. For the stronger version, they stick a needle into your arm 20 different times in 2 perfect rows - on outside of the top of your arm and the inside of your forearm.
Good news is I am not allergic to anything...bad news is I have 20 welts on my arm and I have a date at an outside restaurant tonight. I can't wear a jacket or long sleeves because it is 90 degrees outside. I had no idea I would have these huge marks on my arm afterwards - my date is either going to think I have some weird obsession with pricking myself in the arm or I was attacked by a very OCD mosquito.
Good news is I am not allergic to anything...bad news is I have 20 welts on my arm and I have a date at an outside restaurant tonight. I can't wear a jacket or long sleeves because it is 90 degrees outside. I had no idea I would have these huge marks on my arm afterwards - my date is either going to think I have some weird obsession with pricking myself in the arm or I was attacked by a very OCD mosquito.
Thursday, August 13, 2009
Counting Crows
Last night I attended the Counting Crows concert at the Chastain Park Amphitheatre with 3 girls I know through work. The show was different than I thought it would be, but we had a great time. As usual, something bizarre happened to me...towards the end of the show, I went to the bathroom. I was in the stall and I saw a hand reach under from the stall next to me. The lady (who was wearing a huge rock), grabbed my toes and fondled them (sorry there is no other word to describe it). I was so freaked out and in shock, I didn't know what to do. Who does that and no, she wasn't asking me for toilet paper.
Other updates:
BD attorney and I still have not connected. He called me back last night, but we were both out last night so we didn't get to chat. He said he would call back tonight.
I texted Yacht Rock boy and told him I was sick this week (which is true) and I would give him a call back once I was feeling better.
Off to yoga...will blog an update when I finally connect with BD attorney.
Other updates:
BD attorney and I still have not connected. He called me back last night, but we were both out last night so we didn't get to chat. He said he would call back tonight.
I texted Yacht Rock boy and told him I was sick this week (which is true) and I would give him a call back once I was feeling better.
Off to yoga...will blog an update when I finally connect with BD attorney.
Tuesday, August 11, 2009
Tuesday Updates
Guess Tuesday is the day to call...exciting!
1) Blind Date attorney called me back tonight. I was beginning to get nervous that he wasn't going to call but he did - right on cue at 7:30. I didn't answer because my sinuses are really bothering me and I sound horrific. He was super cute on his message and said he wanted to see if we could get together again. After a quick call to BFF, she convinced me that I sound much better & only a little congested.
2) Yacht Rock guy called tonight too. Now I know his name thank goodness. Felt really bad about about not remembering, but chances are he probably didn't remember my name either and was praying my vmail would pick up so he could catch my name on the message.
3) I texted Baseball boy last night and he texted back. He seems nice but I am totally turned off with his Braves obsession. However, what is it going to hurt to go out with him one time...I need 1st dates. How bad could it be? (yes, I know I just jinxed myself by writing that)
Calling them back in order of date priority and right now, even though I have the 25 1st date challenge, Blind Date attorney is in the lead so he will receive call back #1, then I will call Yacht Rock and text back Baseball Boy.
Called Blind Date attorney and left a message. holding off on calling anyone else back until I hear from him. My sched is crazy and I don't want to book a date with someone else until I can schedule BD attorney.
Check back later for an update under this same post.
Snuggling up to watch Season 2 Mad Men in prep for Sunday's Season 3 premier. Sweet Dreams!
1) Blind Date attorney called me back tonight. I was beginning to get nervous that he wasn't going to call but he did - right on cue at 7:30. I didn't answer because my sinuses are really bothering me and I sound horrific. He was super cute on his message and said he wanted to see if we could get together again. After a quick call to BFF, she convinced me that I sound much better & only a little congested.
2) Yacht Rock guy called tonight too. Now I know his name thank goodness. Felt really bad about about not remembering, but chances are he probably didn't remember my name either and was praying my vmail would pick up so he could catch my name on the message.
3) I texted Baseball boy last night and he texted back. He seems nice but I am totally turned off with his Braves obsession. However, what is it going to hurt to go out with him one time...I need 1st dates. How bad could it be? (yes, I know I just jinxed myself by writing that)
Calling them back in order of date priority and right now, even though I have the 25 1st date challenge, Blind Date attorney is in the lead so he will receive call back #1, then I will call Yacht Rock and text back Baseball Boy.
Called Blind Date attorney and left a message. holding off on calling anyone else back until I hear from him. My sched is crazy and I don't want to book a date with someone else until I can schedule BD attorney.
Check back later for an update under this same post.
Snuggling up to watch Season 2 Mad Men in prep for Sunday's Season 3 premier. Sweet Dreams!
Monday, August 10, 2009
Blind Date
Last night was my first blind date. A guy I used to work with set us up. I was super excited about the date because this guy seems to be right along the lines of what I am looking for- he is an attorney (professional) here in Atlanta (local), mid-30s (within the age range) and divorced (so he won't mind that I am).
He called last weekend to set up a time to meet. Point #1 since he didn't text me. Our schedules were off last week so we decided to meet on Sunday. He called Sat. to confirm the date - Point #2, he called again instead of texting. He picked out a place in my area of town - Point #3, he chose a place and didn't rely on me.
Yesterday afternoon I was nervous that it was going to be a terrible date because I was actually really excited about this date. Good news is I wasn't near as nervous as my 1st, 1st date so I am getting better at this.
The date went really well. He was very nice, let me pick my fav wine, good restaurant. It was comfortable, but not too comfortable. Conversation flowed well, but not the nervous chit-chat. Everything was on track to be a good, non-dramatic 1st date until the waiter came over to refill our water. I need to start this portion of the story by telling you I am wearing white jeans and for those of you that have white jeans you know they are already a little see-thru. The waiter goes to fill up my glass and lost his grip on the very full water pitcher which proceeds to dump all in my lap! I am absolutely soaked to the bone. Blind Date and all the tables around us jump up and hand me napkins. It was pretty funny, but I was soaking wet and knew my jeans were not going to dry anytime soon. I didn't want to go to the bathroom to try and dry them off because I wasn't sure how see-thru they were going to be. I was a good sport and made it through the dinner with wet jeans (sexy right). Blind Date said at least it will be a memorable date.
All and all, the date was good and he said he wanted to see me again and would call me this week. There weren't fireworks, but we had a lot in common and he was very nice. Hopefully he will actually call because I would be excited to go out with him again. I will keep you posted.
Other Updates:
Tonight I am going to text back Baseball Boy to see what he is up to so I can begin accumulating 1st dates.
Yacht Rock guy has texted a few times so maybe he is a possiblity for another 1st date.
He called last weekend to set up a time to meet. Point #1 since he didn't text me. Our schedules were off last week so we decided to meet on Sunday. He called Sat. to confirm the date - Point #2, he called again instead of texting. He picked out a place in my area of town - Point #3, he chose a place and didn't rely on me.
Yesterday afternoon I was nervous that it was going to be a terrible date because I was actually really excited about this date. Good news is I wasn't near as nervous as my 1st, 1st date so I am getting better at this.
The date went really well. He was very nice, let me pick my fav wine, good restaurant. It was comfortable, but not too comfortable. Conversation flowed well, but not the nervous chit-chat. Everything was on track to be a good, non-dramatic 1st date until the waiter came over to refill our water. I need to start this portion of the story by telling you I am wearing white jeans and for those of you that have white jeans you know they are already a little see-thru. The waiter goes to fill up my glass and lost his grip on the very full water pitcher which proceeds to dump all in my lap! I am absolutely soaked to the bone. Blind Date and all the tables around us jump up and hand me napkins. It was pretty funny, but I was soaking wet and knew my jeans were not going to dry anytime soon. I didn't want to go to the bathroom to try and dry them off because I wasn't sure how see-thru they were going to be. I was a good sport and made it through the dinner with wet jeans (sexy right). Blind Date said at least it will be a memorable date.
All and all, the date was good and he said he wanted to see me again and would call me this week. There weren't fireworks, but we had a lot in common and he was very nice. Hopefully he will actually call because I would be excited to go out with him again. I will keep you posted.
Other Updates:
Tonight I am going to text back Baseball Boy to see what he is up to so I can begin accumulating 1st dates.
Yacht Rock guy has texted a few times so maybe he is a possiblity for another 1st date.
Saturday, August 8, 2009
25 First Dates
Wasn't that the title of a movie??? BFF challenged me to go on 25 1st dates by December 31st. Considering there are less than 25 weeks left in the year, this is going to be hard - I might shoot for 15 1st dates and 25 total dates. Regardless, I am going to try and meet the challenge. I guess I need to call back some of the guys I have blogged about so I they can help me meet the goal.
Update on Baseball Boy...he has called a couple times and texted a few times. Almost every time he has been at or is leaving the Braves game. Really...he has an obsession with the Braves, but now I have to call him back so I can go on a 1st date with him.
Enjoy the journey.
Update on Baseball Boy...he has called a couple times and texted a few times. Almost every time he has been at or is leaving the Braves game. Really...he has an obsession with the Braves, but now I have to call him back so I can go on a 1st date with him.
Enjoy the journey.
Yacht Rock
Last night I went out with SWF (single work friend) and a group of her girls. Super excited to meet a whole new crew of girls. Not that I don't love my girlies, but it was so much fun to mix it up and hang out with a new crew. We went to see a band - Yacht Rock. SWF and I didn't have tix, but ended up sneaking in by telling them a name of the guest list. A few shots later, SWF and I are on the front row just like the band party days in college. Too much fun!
Met a guy, no idea what his name is, super nice, went home with him (don't worry...totally innocent fun). He was a total gentleman, gave me a back massage and tickled my back this morning, offered to go get me Starbucks (even after I told him what I order which is pretty complicated). He is going to play golf with a kid he mentors, etc. Of course I feel like a total jerk because I have no idea what his name is.
Off to the pool and to get a haircut. Happy Saturday!
Met a guy, no idea what his name is, super nice, went home with him (don't worry...totally innocent fun). He was a total gentleman, gave me a back massage and tickled my back this morning, offered to go get me Starbucks (even after I told him what I order which is pretty complicated). He is going to play golf with a kid he mentors, etc. Of course I feel like a total jerk because I have no idea what his name is.
Off to the pool and to get a haircut. Happy Saturday!
NYC
This week I took a day trip to NYC for work. Total mine field of cute guys - just the type I am looking for - early/mid 30s, professional and very good looking. I wish I had the $$$ to fly up and back on a weekly basis. I was with my boss so it wasn't the opportune time to chat it up with these professional hotties. NYC...I am booking a flight to come back soon.
Sunday, August 2, 2009
Baseball Boy
Single Best Friend (SBF) and I head out for a casual night on the town. Expecting nothing of the night, just checking out what is going on around town. End up talking to a somewhat cute, but great personality guy and bar hop with his friends for the night. He ask for my number which I am siked about. I have been officially single for a couple weeks and the dates keep on coming ;) Give him my number and he calls the standard few days later.
Finally, I guy that knows how to actually call someone without texting 1st.
BB: Would you like to go to a baseball game on Wednesday night.
Sidenote - Not exactly my ideal 1st date scenario because I don’t want to be hot and sweaty.
Me: I am so sorry, my schedule is a little crazy this week and I can’t go that Wednesday, but would love to get together one night the next week.
BB: Well there aren’t any baseball games in town next week.
SILENCE…what am I supposed to say, aren’t there other things to do besides baseball games.
ME: Ok
BB: Well I hope you have a great week.
Really…what just happened. I said no, offered another night and he doesn’t take me up on it because there aren’t any baseball games in town. I half expected him to call back and say…how stupid am I…why don’t we go do something next Tuesday.
He called back a week later, but didn’t leave a message.
I really don't get it.
Finally, I guy that knows how to actually call someone without texting 1st.
BB: Would you like to go to a baseball game on Wednesday night.
Sidenote - Not exactly my ideal 1st date scenario because I don’t want to be hot and sweaty.
Me: I am so sorry, my schedule is a little crazy this week and I can’t go that Wednesday, but would love to get together one night the next week.
BB: Well there aren’t any baseball games in town next week.
SILENCE…what am I supposed to say, aren’t there other things to do besides baseball games.
ME: Ok
BB: Well I hope you have a great week.
Really…what just happened. I said no, offered another night and he doesn’t take me up on it because there aren’t any baseball games in town. I half expected him to call back and say…how stupid am I…why don’t we go do something next Tuesday.
He called back a week later, but didn’t leave a message.
I really don't get it.
Hot Manager
I love eating out at nice restaurants. My running friends (BRF – best running friends) went out for a nice dinner to catch up on Friday night. Of course I am on the prowl for any cute guys because I am totally ready to date. I could not find the ladies room so the super hot manager helps me find my way…ok he is super hot! We cross paths a few times during our dinner and at the end of the night comes out to chat it up with our table for a while. He gives me his card and say if you ever need anything, please let me know.
Hello… I don’t want to call him, but he was super hot (have I mentioned that yet) and I want to go out with him. I don’t want to go out with him bad enough to be the one to ask him out though. I am forward but not that forward.
I decide to shoot him an email and ask a question about the wine I had at dinner that night. I was cute and a little flirty but the focus of the email was about the wine. It worked…he asked me out to split a bottle of wine since we seemed to have the same taste in wine.
I spend the next few days trying to research wine because I don’t know anything about wine except if I think it is good or not. I depend on others to pick it out.
This is a date I am really excited about so it prompts more call to my friends about what to wear. After a lengthy discussion and several emails, concensous is reached and the outfit is decided on – 2 days in advance.
The day before the date I receive a text from Hot Manager saying he ran into a financial crisis is now broke so we can’t go out. What??? 1) Why text that? 2) Why tell me that and 3) WTH???
My immediate reaction is that it is a dramatic excuse, but I could not figure out what would have changed.
A few hours later I receive a follow up text requesting that I accept his friend request on Facebook so we can get to know each other better until he overcomes the financial crisis because he is interested. Seriously…several points to this –
Why do we have to be friends on Facebook to get to know each other have you ever heard of the telephone?
Couldn’t we go out for coffee…dates don’t have to be expensive
I am damn glad this happened before we went out because this guy seems like a total loony
Now I can never go back to that restaurant L
New rule: Avoid anyone in the restaurant industry because I am going to run out of places to eat. This is the second restaurant I can’t go to because of a guy.
Hot Manager turned into Crazy Manager no longer hot.
Hello… I don’t want to call him, but he was super hot (have I mentioned that yet) and I want to go out with him. I don’t want to go out with him bad enough to be the one to ask him out though. I am forward but not that forward.
I decide to shoot him an email and ask a question about the wine I had at dinner that night. I was cute and a little flirty but the focus of the email was about the wine. It worked…he asked me out to split a bottle of wine since we seemed to have the same taste in wine.
I spend the next few days trying to research wine because I don’t know anything about wine except if I think it is good or not. I depend on others to pick it out.
This is a date I am really excited about so it prompts more call to my friends about what to wear. After a lengthy discussion and several emails, concensous is reached and the outfit is decided on – 2 days in advance.
The day before the date I receive a text from Hot Manager saying he ran into a financial crisis is now broke so we can’t go out. What??? 1) Why text that? 2) Why tell me that and 3) WTH???
My immediate reaction is that it is a dramatic excuse, but I could not figure out what would have changed.
A few hours later I receive a follow up text requesting that I accept his friend request on Facebook so we can get to know each other better until he overcomes the financial crisis because he is interested. Seriously…several points to this –
Why do we have to be friends on Facebook to get to know each other have you ever heard of the telephone?
Couldn’t we go out for coffee…dates don’t have to be expensive
I am damn glad this happened before we went out because this guy seems like a total loony
Now I can never go back to that restaurant L
New rule: Avoid anyone in the restaurant industry because I am going to run out of places to eat. This is the second restaurant I can’t go to because of a guy.
Hot Manager turned into Crazy Manager no longer hot.
My First First Date
I haven’t dated in over 7 years. I haven’t flirted in over 7 years. A lot has changed during this time. There are now a million ways to communicate – Facebook, texting, phone, email…which means you have to check all these forms of media to find out if your guy of interest is interested in you. Let the fun and amusement.
I met Dancer the night of my co-birthday bash with my BFF. One thing you need to know about me early on is I will talk to anyone. I often stray from my group of girls and find complete strangers to talk to – I also get to know the servers/cocktail waitress/bartenders at my fav establishments. So back to Dancer…totally not my type but I was intrigued by his incredible dance moves. I found it very sexy. I have identified my target for a first date. Someone who is fun, different and someone I know I won’t be interested in romantically. I am a perfectionist and want to practice dating with guys I don’t like first so I am good at it by the time I go out with someone I really like.
Day before 1st date
I drive all my friends CRAZY…do I offer to pay because I am a southern girl and really I don’t mean it if I offer? BTW…call me old fashion but if you make me pay, we won’t be going out again. What do I wear? I don’t want to be too dressed up or too dressed down. Should he pick me up or should we meet? What if we don’t have anything to say? How do you end the date? What should I order? How many drinks should I have? What if he asks if I am divorced, how do you answer that?
Day of the 1st, 1st date
I am sick to my stomach. Why I nervous – I don’t get nervous about meeting people. It’s my job to talk to people, connect and build relationships so dating should not be a problem. Not to mention, I am a very outgoing, confident girl. Again, why am I nervous?
I have to leave work early because my stomach is in a knot and I can’t think about anything except the date.
I call my out of town BFF and ask her if I should have a shot before my date to calm my nerves. Answer: NO, you don’t want to get drunk on the 1st date.
I met Dancer at a Latin tapas restaurant. He appears to be extremely nervous to the point where he is sweating. I turn into a mute. All I can think about is what is wrong with me, normally I am a chatterbox. We both get a drink in us and he carries the conversation. I ask questions, he gives long answers.
I discovered, I don’t like talking about me and would rather ask questions about my date.
After a couple sangrias, Dancer offers to teach me salsa. I am a white girl with no rhythm so I become extremely nervous all over again. However, this is my chance to be the couple that doesn’t care what people think and even though no one else is dancing, we are going to get up and dance.
I was terrible, but he pretended like I did an ok job. It was a lot of fun and Dancer was a total gentleman. He walked me to my car and gave me an innocent 1st date kiss.
I am so relieved to have the 1st date over and feel back to my confident self. I now know what to expect!
I met Dancer the night of my co-birthday bash with my BFF. One thing you need to know about me early on is I will talk to anyone. I often stray from my group of girls and find complete strangers to talk to – I also get to know the servers/cocktail waitress/bartenders at my fav establishments. So back to Dancer…totally not my type but I was intrigued by his incredible dance moves. I found it very sexy. I have identified my target for a first date. Someone who is fun, different and someone I know I won’t be interested in romantically. I am a perfectionist and want to practice dating with guys I don’t like first so I am good at it by the time I go out with someone I really like.
Day before 1st date
I drive all my friends CRAZY…do I offer to pay because I am a southern girl and really I don’t mean it if I offer? BTW…call me old fashion but if you make me pay, we won’t be going out again. What do I wear? I don’t want to be too dressed up or too dressed down. Should he pick me up or should we meet? What if we don’t have anything to say? How do you end the date? What should I order? How many drinks should I have? What if he asks if I am divorced, how do you answer that?
Day of the 1st, 1st date
I am sick to my stomach. Why I nervous – I don’t get nervous about meeting people. It’s my job to talk to people, connect and build relationships so dating should not be a problem. Not to mention, I am a very outgoing, confident girl. Again, why am I nervous?
I have to leave work early because my stomach is in a knot and I can’t think about anything except the date.
I call my out of town BFF and ask her if I should have a shot before my date to calm my nerves. Answer: NO, you don’t want to get drunk on the 1st date.
I met Dancer at a Latin tapas restaurant. He appears to be extremely nervous to the point where he is sweating. I turn into a mute. All I can think about is what is wrong with me, normally I am a chatterbox. We both get a drink in us and he carries the conversation. I ask questions, he gives long answers.
I discovered, I don’t like talking about me and would rather ask questions about my date.
After a couple sangrias, Dancer offers to teach me salsa. I am a white girl with no rhythm so I become extremely nervous all over again. However, this is my chance to be the couple that doesn’t care what people think and even though no one else is dancing, we are going to get up and dance.
I was terrible, but he pretended like I did an ok job. It was a lot of fun and Dancer was a total gentleman. He walked me to my car and gave me an innocent 1st date kiss.
I am so relieved to have the 1st date over and feel back to my confident self. I now know what to expect!
Skinny the Stalker
I guess after the divorce I have a new vibe that says…yes I am back on the market.
There is a great restaurant in the bottom of the building where I work and I eat multiple times a week. This restaurant has a great menu & good service.
You will find out over the course of this blog, I am very friendly to everyone. I am beginning to realize I may have to change my ways…Because I frequent this restaurant multiple times a week, you would expect that I get to know the staff, they know I like a black napkin and an iced tea. Hello…there were a few months when I ate there 4+ times a week. One of the waiters, we will call him Skinny, became extra friendly with me – more than normal. At first I didn’t think anything about it until he started to call me gorgeous or sweetie and would go out of his way to make sure he brought my drink and napkin to the table even if it wasn’t in his section.
Then the free desserts or appetizers started coming. Getting a little stranger, but it was a great benefit.
Next came the Facebook request. This creeped me out big time. How did he know my last name? Why does he want to be my friend on Facebook?
This triggered an immediate reduction in my visits to the regular spot – I would go weeks at a time without going in. Even the manager asked why I wasn’t coming in as much.
Now keep in mind, I love the food at this place and I broke down one day and had to have one of their soups. I decided I could sit at the bar, hopefully Skinny wouldn’t see me, took work with me so I would be unapproachable and hoped for the best. Mission Failed. He immediately came over and talked to me for what seemed like an eternity even though I kept trying to read the papers I brought or was checking my blackberry. I ate the soup as fast as possible and tried to scramble out without him seeing me leave. Mission Failed again. He comes over with a take out bag – yes dessert again. I politely thank him and run out the door.
Yummy, it was my fav dessert – hot cookie cake with ice cream and caramel. I get back to my desk and whip out the dessert. Out fall a piece of paper…”Thanks for coming in your brightened my day. Hope this brightens yours… Skinny and below his name was his number. CREEPY…we take a quick poll around the office some people think its creepy and others think it’s sweet.
I know I should just tell him I am not interested, but it makes me uncomfortable. What if he is a crazy stalker and trying to attack me? He is definitely persistent and doesn’t pick up on any clues.
Instead of confronting the issue head on, I have stopped going to the restaurant.
There is a great restaurant in the bottom of the building where I work and I eat multiple times a week. This restaurant has a great menu & good service.
You will find out over the course of this blog, I am very friendly to everyone. I am beginning to realize I may have to change my ways…Because I frequent this restaurant multiple times a week, you would expect that I get to know the staff, they know I like a black napkin and an iced tea. Hello…there were a few months when I ate there 4+ times a week. One of the waiters, we will call him Skinny, became extra friendly with me – more than normal. At first I didn’t think anything about it until he started to call me gorgeous or sweetie and would go out of his way to make sure he brought my drink and napkin to the table even if it wasn’t in his section.
Then the free desserts or appetizers started coming. Getting a little stranger, but it was a great benefit.
Next came the Facebook request. This creeped me out big time. How did he know my last name? Why does he want to be my friend on Facebook?
This triggered an immediate reduction in my visits to the regular spot – I would go weeks at a time without going in. Even the manager asked why I wasn’t coming in as much.
Now keep in mind, I love the food at this place and I broke down one day and had to have one of their soups. I decided I could sit at the bar, hopefully Skinny wouldn’t see me, took work with me so I would be unapproachable and hoped for the best. Mission Failed. He immediately came over and talked to me for what seemed like an eternity even though I kept trying to read the papers I brought or was checking my blackberry. I ate the soup as fast as possible and tried to scramble out without him seeing me leave. Mission Failed again. He comes over with a take out bag – yes dessert again. I politely thank him and run out the door.
Yummy, it was my fav dessert – hot cookie cake with ice cream and caramel. I get back to my desk and whip out the dessert. Out fall a piece of paper…”Thanks for coming in your brightened my day. Hope this brightens yours… Skinny and below his name was his number. CREEPY…we take a quick poll around the office some people think its creepy and others think it’s sweet.
I know I should just tell him I am not interested, but it makes me uncomfortable. What if he is a crazy stalker and trying to attack me? He is definitely persistent and doesn’t pick up on any clues.
Instead of confronting the issue head on, I have stopped going to the restaurant.
New Beginnings…
I am back. The vivacious, fun loving, smiling, confident, party girl is back. I love shopping, family & friends, wine, vodka gimlets, talking to strangers, eating yummy food and being a southern girl.
In graduate school I learned the term…work hard play hard and that has been my life over the past 3 months. My friends and family wanted the “old” me back and they got it times a million.
Several months ago, after 3 ½ years of marriage, I started over. I ended the marriage, moved into a new condo, bought all new furniture, bought a new car and started my new life. Thank God for second chances.
I am starting this blog to share the stories of a twenty something divorcé. After weeks hearing of stories about dating, going out and starting over, my co-workers suggested I write a book. Being a modern girl, I thought a blog would be the best option.
I am soaking up every moment of my new life and will chronicle my adventures in this blog.
Enjoy.
In graduate school I learned the term…work hard play hard and that has been my life over the past 3 months. My friends and family wanted the “old” me back and they got it times a million.
Several months ago, after 3 ½ years of marriage, I started over. I ended the marriage, moved into a new condo, bought all new furniture, bought a new car and started my new life. Thank God for second chances.
I am starting this blog to share the stories of a twenty something divorcé. After weeks hearing of stories about dating, going out and starting over, my co-workers suggested I write a book. Being a modern girl, I thought a blog would be the best option.
I am soaking up every moment of my new life and will chronicle my adventures in this blog.
Enjoy.
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