Top 10 list of what I am looking for in a guy

First things first…I am not looking for a serious relationship any time soon, but everyone keeps asking me what kind of person I like and my therapist suggested I make a list of the qualities I am looking for in someone (and write them down) so I can revisit to make sure I don’t stray too far from what I want

Here we go…
1) Gainfully employed – preferably a white collar occupation

2) Independent – I don’t do needy. I like my space and freedom and do not want to be with someone who is insecure, needs hand holding. Respect my time and space and I will respect yours.

3) Athletic or at least takes time to work out and keep his body in shape

4) Social – I need a guy that can go to a party, carry on a conversation and doesn’t need a babysitter the entire night. I want to be with the life of the party, the guy people want to invite because he is fun and keeps the conversations going and interesting.

5) Family oriented – this does not mean I want to be with a guy that wants/has kids. It is important to me to be with someone who has a good relationship with his family (including siblings). In the event that I introduce someone to my family, it is important that they slide right in to my environment and feel comfortable with my family.

6) Has a hobby – Back to #2, I don’t want to spend all my time with someone and need my space. Have a hobby that I don’t participate in is a necessity. It gives me the time to do things I enjoy

7) Religious – I am not saying you have to be holier than thou, just have some religious inclinations or be spiritual.

8) Strong - not necessarily physically but emotionally. I have a strong personality and need to be with someone that is stronger than me. Yes, as much as I hate to admit it, at the end of the day, I want someone to take care of me.

9) No addictions – cannot be an alcoholic, recovering drug addict or smoker (cigar smoking is ok)

10)Likes to experience new things– I am up for almost anything. We only live life once and I don’t want to miss out on anything. I want to be with someone who isn’t afraid to travel to new places, try new restaurants, talk to strangers, do something unusual. What fun is it to be confined by the rules and expectations of others. If you feel like doing something, do it (unless it is harmful to others).