So I called South Beach back tonight and it went straight to vmail. He called me back from a cab in NYC, going to a wedding. Good news is he didn't fly up there with a girl if he called me from a cab on the way from the airport and he said he was staying at a friend's so maybe that means he doesn't have a girlfriend.
He said he can't make it up next weekend but said we needed to figure out a weekend for me to come to Miami. We threw a few dates back and forth and it looks like the end of Jan is the 1st time we can work something out.
Why did it take me asking him here before he asked me to visit him? Still just as confused as before.
Wednesday, December 30, 2009
Ole Miss Update
Ole Miss called tonight. He left a message and just said he wanted to see what I was up to this weekend. Why is he just calling now?
As a sidenote, a few weeks ago, my blackberry had issues and they had to reset it. Any number I input on my blackberry instead of my computer was erased. Work told me the numbers would erase to give me the opportunity to write them down. I took it as a sign so I didn't write any numbers down so it erased anyone I met from October until now.
I am taking it as a sign, but for some reason my phone didn't ring and he didn't leave his number on the message and I don't have his number in my phone since it was erased when they reset my blackberry.
Why is it every time I decide to make the decision to take time for myself someone from the past pops up.
As a sidenote, a few weeks ago, my blackberry had issues and they had to reset it. Any number I input on my blackberry instead of my computer was erased. Work told me the numbers would erase to give me the opportunity to write them down. I took it as a sign so I didn't write any numbers down so it erased anyone I met from October until now.
I am taking it as a sign, but for some reason my phone didn't ring and he didn't leave his number on the message and I don't have his number in my phone since it was erased when they reset my blackberry.
Why is it every time I decide to make the decision to take time for myself someone from the past pops up.
I invited South Beach to the ATL
I know I have catching up to do, but I have been taking it easy with little to report during the holidays. Doesn’t make for good blogging, but my liver is thanking me.
The whole South Beach situation continues to perplex me – he sends texts (personalized, not the mass text) to say Happy whatever holiday or sends a text to tell me he is thinking about me if he sees something on TV that reminds him of me like AU football and randomly calls every few weeks. If I send him a text, he always calls me instead of texting back that night or the next day. BUT he has never invited me down to see him. I am convinced that he has a girlfriend. I asked him the night we met and he said no, but 3 months have passed since then.
I want to know one way or the other what the deal is. In my typical style, I drunk texted him and invited him up her for a friend’s birthday party next weekend. Yep…drunk text “come to atl on Jan 9th”
Well…he called me last night, which may not be a bad thing, but I was already asleep so I didn’t answer. I know he isn’t going to come, so if he doesn’t and doesn’t have a really, really good excuse (I will let you know what it is), I am chalking this up to he is in a relationship. I am going to call him back tonight. Stay tuned.
I am working on dating New Year’s resolutions and should have them up by this weekend.
The whole South Beach situation continues to perplex me – he sends texts (personalized, not the mass text) to say Happy whatever holiday or sends a text to tell me he is thinking about me if he sees something on TV that reminds him of me like AU football and randomly calls every few weeks. If I send him a text, he always calls me instead of texting back that night or the next day. BUT he has never invited me down to see him. I am convinced that he has a girlfriend. I asked him the night we met and he said no, but 3 months have passed since then.
I want to know one way or the other what the deal is. In my typical style, I drunk texted him and invited him up her for a friend’s birthday party next weekend. Yep…drunk text “come to atl on Jan 9th”
Well…he called me last night, which may not be a bad thing, but I was already asleep so I didn’t answer. I know he isn’t going to come, so if he doesn’t and doesn’t have a really, really good excuse (I will let you know what it is), I am chalking this up to he is in a relationship. I am going to call him back tonight. Stay tuned.
I am working on dating New Year’s resolutions and should have them up by this weekend.
Friday, December 11, 2009
New York Dilemma Update
Verdict...I am not going to call or text New York and tell him I will be in town. I am deleting him from my phone right now so there is no chance I will transform into a stalker. I was leaning towards no, but a lovely reader said I would cross over to the "creepy" category and I saw the light.
Maybe I will meet another NYC cutie when I am there. This trip I have a single sidekick so hopefully we will have good luck.
Maybe I will meet another NYC cutie when I am there. This trip I have a single sidekick so hopefully we will have good luck.
Am I smoking crack?
The I love you guy called again Monday night and left a really long message apologizing for his behavior the other week. He said it has really been bothering him and he wanted me to know how sorry he was and that wasn't normal behavior for him.
I hate when people don't call me back so my plan was to call him back, tell him I totally understood and that while I had fun going out with him, I don't think we are looking for the same thing out of a relationship right now. It's pretty clear to me he is on a serious wife hunt and I am not interested in being any one's wife (now or possibly ever).
Well...that's not how the call went. Somehow I found myself agreeing to go out with him again. WHAT! Why did I do that? I felt so bad for him that I couldn't bring myself to say we are looking for different things. It's not like I am criticizing him so I don't know why the words would not come out of my mouth. Of course, since I was such a wimp, I am now dreading going out with him on Tuesday. I guess I need to work up the courage to call him and tell him before then or stop complaining about going.
I hate when people don't call me back so my plan was to call him back, tell him I totally understood and that while I had fun going out with him, I don't think we are looking for the same thing out of a relationship right now. It's pretty clear to me he is on a serious wife hunt and I am not interested in being any one's wife (now or possibly ever).
Well...that's not how the call went. Somehow I found myself agreeing to go out with him again. WHAT! Why did I do that? I felt so bad for him that I couldn't bring myself to say we are looking for different things. It's not like I am criticizing him so I don't know why the words would not come out of my mouth. Of course, since I was such a wimp, I am now dreading going out with him on Tuesday. I guess I need to work up the courage to call him and tell him before then or stop complaining about going.
Monday, December 7, 2009
Dilemma
I am going back to New York next week. I will be in town for one night. Should I let New York know I will be in town. After being a stalker, not a good idea but on the other hand, what do I have to lose?
I get the he's just not that into me rules and I haven't heard from him since the weekend I was in town, but...who knows.
Please vote using the comments section. As an FYI...you can respond anonymously.
I get the he's just not that into me rules and I haven't heard from him since the weekend I was in town, but...who knows.
Please vote using the comments section. As an FYI...you can respond anonymously.
Ole Miss
Ole Miss is the first guy I have liked since BDE. He seems like such a gentleman. After he came home with me on our night of drunkenness and making out, he did not take advantage of the situation which I really appreciate because he totally could have.
He texted me on Saturday after we met to see what I was up to and again later in the week to see if it would be ok if he called me. I thought this was a little weird, but it was cute because it was polite. Of course I texted back that I would luv for him to call me.
We went out last Thursday night. I had a charity bowling event and he had dinner with friends so we met up afterwards to have a drink and watch a movie. It was a lot of fun...we spent so much time talking we didn't even watch the movie. The conversation was not strained at all and we had a lot to talk about. It was late so I ended up staying over at his house - again he was a total gentleman. He said some really sweet things and talked about taking me to a couple of different restaurants I have not been to yet. He said he didn't want too much time to go by before he saw me again.
We laughed about the night we met - he said we both got a free pass on our behavior that night :)
The next day, I was in lala land. I really liked him. He is from the South (Atlanta), comes from a good family, started his own company and it is doing well, he's into football and sports, definitely has manners, likes to go out to eat, social...I could keep going. He seemed like a guy I would really like.
BUT...it's Monday morning and I haven't heard from him yet. It was a busy weekend and we both had family in town, but he didn't even send a text - not a good sign.
He texted me on Saturday after we met to see what I was up to and again later in the week to see if it would be ok if he called me. I thought this was a little weird, but it was cute because it was polite. Of course I texted back that I would luv for him to call me.
We went out last Thursday night. I had a charity bowling event and he had dinner with friends so we met up afterwards to have a drink and watch a movie. It was a lot of fun...we spent so much time talking we didn't even watch the movie. The conversation was not strained at all and we had a lot to talk about. It was late so I ended up staying over at his house - again he was a total gentleman. He said some really sweet things and talked about taking me to a couple of different restaurants I have not been to yet. He said he didn't want too much time to go by before he saw me again.
We laughed about the night we met - he said we both got a free pass on our behavior that night :)
The next day, I was in lala land. I really liked him. He is from the South (Atlanta), comes from a good family, started his own company and it is doing well, he's into football and sports, definitely has manners, likes to go out to eat, social...I could keep going. He seemed like a guy I would really like.
BUT...it's Monday morning and I haven't heard from him yet. It was a busy weekend and we both had family in town, but he didn't even send a text - not a good sign.
Baseball Boy
I finally went out with Baseball Boy. Back in the summer, we made a bet on the Auburn/Alabama game. He is an Alabama fan and of course I am an Auburn fan. About a week before the game he started texting me again. As we all know, Auburn lost the game so I had to pay up.
I learned a very important lesson from this date - guys that you meet out late night are likely not going to be as cute as you remember. He was nice, but not as cute as I remembered there was no spark. The conversation was fine. I have been a little paranoid since the I love you guy told me I was quiet. He brought up the Braves. I don't know why I find that so annoying, but I do.
Anyway, after the date, he sent me a facebook request. I don't mix facebook and guys so I don't know how to handle the situation. On this one, I don't care because I don't like him, but what do I do if a guy I like sends a FB request. I feel like a dork saying I don't mix dating and guys, but I don't want to ignore it either. Any suggestions?
I learned a very important lesson from this date - guys that you meet out late night are likely not going to be as cute as you remember. He was nice, but not as cute as I remembered there was no spark. The conversation was fine. I have been a little paranoid since the I love you guy told me I was quiet. He brought up the Braves. I don't know why I find that so annoying, but I do.
Anyway, after the date, he sent me a facebook request. I don't mix facebook and guys so I don't know how to handle the situation. On this one, I don't care because I don't like him, but what do I do if a guy I like sends a FB request. I feel like a dork saying I don't mix dating and guys, but I don't want to ignore it either. Any suggestions?
Makeout Session
The most random nights begin with "we are just going out for one drink." SBF (which I need to change her name now since she isn't single anymore) and I headed out for a drink the Friday after Thanksgiving. I attended the Auburn/Alabama game that day and for some reason wasn't totally exhausted and felt like going out for a drink.
We went to a local pub and found a couple seats at the bar. It was perfect to chat, catch up and people watch. We ran into a few people SBF knew and met a few friends of friends. One of the guys we met hung out with us for a little while and was giving advice on how I could pick up guys (introduce nickname as Ole Miss). He even started buying shots for guys and telling them the shot was from me a an experiment to see how many guys would come over to say thanks and talk. Of course, we started taking shots too - so much for the one drink rule.
When the fun of the pub wore off, Ole Miss, SBF and I went to Johnny's Hideaway - an old person's dance club that turns young after midnight. When we got to Johnny's we continued to take more shots. You can't have drinks on the dance floor so shots work better for drinking here. I am not proud of the rest of this post, and I am going to catch hell for this, but here it goes...
Ole Miss and I took the dance floor where our make out session began. We made out on the dance floor, at the bar, on the dance floor again. Finally, SBF was ready to go and of course in my drunken state, Waffle House seemed like a good idea - especially since it it conveniently located next to Johnny's. There was line for Waffle House so we put $ in the jute box and started playing songs. I also continued to make out with Ole Miss. I got tired of waiting at this Waffle House so we decided to go to another one closer to my house. On the way there, Ole Miss and I made out like rock stars in the backseat of the taxi. SBF was mortified! She said she was going home and dropped us off at Waffle House - smart move on her part. Ole Miss and I sat on the same side of the booth and made out for an hour at the 2nd Waffle House. Who does this...really! At 4 we finally decide to leave. Ole Miss comes home with me. This is the 1st time I have EVER brought a guy home with me. In fact, aside from family members, I have never even let a guy in my condo. More to follow in a second post on Ole Miss.
We went to a local pub and found a couple seats at the bar. It was perfect to chat, catch up and people watch. We ran into a few people SBF knew and met a few friends of friends. One of the guys we met hung out with us for a little while and was giving advice on how I could pick up guys (introduce nickname as Ole Miss). He even started buying shots for guys and telling them the shot was from me a an experiment to see how many guys would come over to say thanks and talk. Of course, we started taking shots too - so much for the one drink rule.
When the fun of the pub wore off, Ole Miss, SBF and I went to Johnny's Hideaway - an old person's dance club that turns young after midnight. When we got to Johnny's we continued to take more shots. You can't have drinks on the dance floor so shots work better for drinking here. I am not proud of the rest of this post, and I am going to catch hell for this, but here it goes...
Ole Miss and I took the dance floor where our make out session began. We made out on the dance floor, at the bar, on the dance floor again. Finally, SBF was ready to go and of course in my drunken state, Waffle House seemed like a good idea - especially since it it conveniently located next to Johnny's. There was line for Waffle House so we put $ in the jute box and started playing songs. I also continued to make out with Ole Miss. I got tired of waiting at this Waffle House so we decided to go to another one closer to my house. On the way there, Ole Miss and I made out like rock stars in the backseat of the taxi. SBF was mortified! She said she was going home and dropped us off at Waffle House - smart move on her part. Ole Miss and I sat on the same side of the booth and made out for an hour at the 2nd Waffle House. Who does this...really! At 4 we finally decide to leave. Ole Miss comes home with me. This is the 1st time I have EVER brought a guy home with me. In fact, aside from family members, I have never even let a guy in my condo. More to follow in a second post on Ole Miss.
Tuesday, December 1, 2009
The I love you date
Against my better judgement, I went out with Auburn again. I knew I didn't like him, but thought it wouldn't hurt to give him another chance. I knew it the night wasn't going the way I would like it when Auburn asked me on the way to dinner what my biggest insecurity was. Hello, I don't know you and this isn't 3rd date talk. I only talk to my therapist about things like that.
Throughout the course of dinner, I tried to be talkative and lively, but the insecurity question threw me for a loop. I didn't answer him...I feel like that was a very personal question and call me guarded, but I am not going to point out my insecurities or flaws on date 3. This further proves my theory that Auburn is desperate to find a wife and is not looking to date someone.
After dinner we went to one of the newer restaurants in Atl to grab a drink. Auburn had a friend coming into town and wanted to meet up with a few friends after dinner. I was fine with this because I was tired of the serious therapy talk.
We were by ourselves for a while at drinks and I noticed Auburn was pounding the drinks. I was 1/4 of the way through my gimlet and he was on drink #2. This is where things went downhill. I am all for constructive criticism - I would love to hear what I do wrong on a date, but the following is not the preferred method.
Auburn: I find you attractive and am drawn to you but don't know if I am going to like you because you are too quiet for me
Me: Really, I don't really know you yet but once I get to know people, I can assure you that you won't describe me as "quiet"
Auburn: No, you are too quiet for me - I can't always carry the conversation
Me: Maybe it's because you ask super personal questions that I don't want to discuss or elaborate on
Silence...
Auburn: I don't think you are in to me
Me: Why do you think that?
Auburn: Because we haven't had sex or messed around
Me: What?
Auburn: Well, it's our 3rd date, we should being having sex tonight and we haven't even messed around
Que the friends...
I decided I was leaving and taking a cab home at this point but his friends talked me into going to the W with them under the presumption that it would be easier to catch a cab from there.
So, again, against my better judgement, I went with them. By the time we reached the W (only a block away) Auburn could barely walk and even his friends were suggesting he drink some water and take a break from drinking.
I was tired, sober and totally turned off after the sex conversation so I informed the group I was leaving.
Auburn: Why are you leaving?
Me: I am tired and ready to go home. Please stay out with your friends, I don't mind grabbing a cab home.
Auburn: No, I want to go home with you.
Me: It's ok, stay with your friends.
Auburn: Let's go home together.
Me: No, I am going home by myself!
Auburn: my name, I think I love you
Me: Mouth on the floor.........
Auburn: Did you hear me, I said I think I love you
Me: turn to friends and tell them I am leaving and I run
1) who does that? 2) I don't like the 3 date rule. Everyone assumes if you go out on 3 dates it's an automatic pass that you are going to have sex. Maybe that is what went wrong with BDE. I am not into this...I don't think I am a prude, but good Lord, I am not going to sleep with everyone I go on 3 dates with. If this is the rule, I am going to have a lot of disastrous 3rd dates.
Auburn called the next morning and left a vmail - "wanted to catch up, sorry about last night, I was a little drunk. Give me a call"
I hate when guys don't call me back so I know the right thing to do is call him and tell him that we are looking for different things in a relationship, but I dread it! Tomorrow I am going to do it.
Throughout the course of dinner, I tried to be talkative and lively, but the insecurity question threw me for a loop. I didn't answer him...I feel like that was a very personal question and call me guarded, but I am not going to point out my insecurities or flaws on date 3. This further proves my theory that Auburn is desperate to find a wife and is not looking to date someone.
After dinner we went to one of the newer restaurants in Atl to grab a drink. Auburn had a friend coming into town and wanted to meet up with a few friends after dinner. I was fine with this because I was tired of the serious therapy talk.
We were by ourselves for a while at drinks and I noticed Auburn was pounding the drinks. I was 1/4 of the way through my gimlet and he was on drink #2. This is where things went downhill. I am all for constructive criticism - I would love to hear what I do wrong on a date, but the following is not the preferred method.
Auburn: I find you attractive and am drawn to you but don't know if I am going to like you because you are too quiet for me
Me: Really, I don't really know you yet but once I get to know people, I can assure you that you won't describe me as "quiet"
Auburn: No, you are too quiet for me - I can't always carry the conversation
Me: Maybe it's because you ask super personal questions that I don't want to discuss or elaborate on
Silence...
Auburn: I don't think you are in to me
Me: Why do you think that?
Auburn: Because we haven't had sex or messed around
Me: What?
Auburn: Well, it's our 3rd date, we should being having sex tonight and we haven't even messed around
Que the friends...
I decided I was leaving and taking a cab home at this point but his friends talked me into going to the W with them under the presumption that it would be easier to catch a cab from there.
So, again, against my better judgement, I went with them. By the time we reached the W (only a block away) Auburn could barely walk and even his friends were suggesting he drink some water and take a break from drinking.
I was tired, sober and totally turned off after the sex conversation so I informed the group I was leaving.
Auburn: Why are you leaving?
Me: I am tired and ready to go home. Please stay out with your friends, I don't mind grabbing a cab home.
Auburn: No, I want to go home with you.
Me: It's ok, stay with your friends.
Auburn: Let's go home together.
Me: No, I am going home by myself!
Auburn: my name, I think I love you
Me: Mouth on the floor.........
Auburn: Did you hear me, I said I think I love you
Me: turn to friends and tell them I am leaving and I run
1) who does that? 2) I don't like the 3 date rule. Everyone assumes if you go out on 3 dates it's an automatic pass that you are going to have sex. Maybe that is what went wrong with BDE. I am not into this...I don't think I am a prude, but good Lord, I am not going to sleep with everyone I go on 3 dates with. If this is the rule, I am going to have a lot of disastrous 3rd dates.
Auburn called the next morning and left a vmail - "wanted to catch up, sorry about last night, I was a little drunk. Give me a call"
I hate when guys don't call me back so I know the right thing to do is call him and tell him that we are looking for different things in a relationship, but I dread it! Tomorrow I am going to do it.
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