I have always had a list of guys that I have had crushes on and wondered what it would be like to hook up with them. Well...now that I am single, I have the opportunity to check these crushes off the list. With each of my crushes, I have an image in my mind of what it would be like if we ever went out or hooked up - a passionate, romantic encounter.
Last night I went out with some friends and that group included a guy I have had a crush on for a long time. We have always been super flirty with each other but it has been innocent because we knew it could not go anywhere. Last night was weird because it was the first time I have been around him since the divorce and I knew the flirting could lead to something more. At the end of the night, everyone went home and my crush and I were left at the bar together. We shared a cab home and I was probably more forward than I should have been - courtesy of my good friend Grey Goose- about if we were going our separate ways or going back to his house. Verdict...his house. Nothing really happened and we were both pretty drunk, but I was super disappointed in the encounter :( It was a far cry from the passionate, we can finally hook up after all these years encounter I imagined. I don't regret things because everything happens for a reason, but I certain wish I made better choices (damn those vodka drinks).
Point is...I built up a scenario in my head for so long and now that it happened it was a let down. Good news is it is checked off my list and I can move onto the next.
Sunday, August 30, 2009
Wednesday, August 26, 2009
Listen to the entire recording
Since my life has been boring due to my workaholic nature lately, listen to these 2 voicemails. At least this didn't happen to me!
http://melodymaker.posterous.com/the-reason-some-girls-stay-single-very-funny
http://melodymaker.posterous.com/the-reason-some-girls-stay-single-very-funny
Thursday, August 20, 2009
Run In
Monday nite I went out with Blind Date Attorney for a 2nd date. Decided he wasn't as cute as I first thought PLUS the conversation was a bore. Granted I have been super stressed with work, had just come from the doctor and have a lot of other things going on so I wasn't in the best mood and am I probably am not giving it a fair shot BUT... I didn't have a good time. Don't get me wrong, he is very nice, it's just not the right time in my life to put work into liking someone. Dating takes a lot of energy - it's like going on a job interview.
If you read about my visit to the allergist, I fessed up about my arm and it was no big deal. Glad I didn't wear long sleeves because sweating would have been worse than the welts on my arms. Water seems to be the theme of our date because we were sitting outside and it started raining.
Anyway, I decided I wasn't interested in going out with him again and I am pretty sure he caught onto the vibe. He hasn't called yet. Well...tonight a girlfriend and I were at our fav sushi restaurant (which isn't a popular spot or one that many know about even though its fabulous) and he walked in. I don't think he saw me and I didn't go up to him.
I should probably get used to these run in because if I go on 25 1st dates, I am going to run into a few of them. Atlanta is a big small town.
Sorry I am behind on blogging. The next few weeks may be slow because things are crazy at work. This weekend is my BFF's bachelorette party. Good times! There will be a post about it next week.
If you read about my visit to the allergist, I fessed up about my arm and it was no big deal. Glad I didn't wear long sleeves because sweating would have been worse than the welts on my arms. Water seems to be the theme of our date because we were sitting outside and it started raining.
Anyway, I decided I wasn't interested in going out with him again and I am pretty sure he caught onto the vibe. He hasn't called yet. Well...tonight a girlfriend and I were at our fav sushi restaurant (which isn't a popular spot or one that many know about even though its fabulous) and he walked in. I don't think he saw me and I didn't go up to him.
I should probably get used to these run in because if I go on 25 1st dates, I am going to run into a few of them. Atlanta is a big small town.
Sorry I am behind on blogging. The next few weeks may be slow because things are crazy at work. This weekend is my BFF's bachelorette party. Good times! There will be a post about it next week.
Monday, August 17, 2009
Welts
In the past month, I have had 2 very bad sinus infections so today I went to the allergist to see what was setting off my sinuses. For those who have never been, they prick your back 20 something times with a diluted substance to see if you are allergic to grass, dust, pollen, etc. My back test came back negative - allergic to nothing so they had to do a stronger version of the test on my right arm. For the stronger version, they stick a needle into your arm 20 different times in 2 perfect rows - on outside of the top of your arm and the inside of your forearm.
Good news is I am not allergic to anything...bad news is I have 20 welts on my arm and I have a date at an outside restaurant tonight. I can't wear a jacket or long sleeves because it is 90 degrees outside. I had no idea I would have these huge marks on my arm afterwards - my date is either going to think I have some weird obsession with pricking myself in the arm or I was attacked by a very OCD mosquito.
Good news is I am not allergic to anything...bad news is I have 20 welts on my arm and I have a date at an outside restaurant tonight. I can't wear a jacket or long sleeves because it is 90 degrees outside. I had no idea I would have these huge marks on my arm afterwards - my date is either going to think I have some weird obsession with pricking myself in the arm or I was attacked by a very OCD mosquito.
Thursday, August 13, 2009
Counting Crows
Last night I attended the Counting Crows concert at the Chastain Park Amphitheatre with 3 girls I know through work. The show was different than I thought it would be, but we had a great time. As usual, something bizarre happened to me...towards the end of the show, I went to the bathroom. I was in the stall and I saw a hand reach under from the stall next to me. The lady (who was wearing a huge rock), grabbed my toes and fondled them (sorry there is no other word to describe it). I was so freaked out and in shock, I didn't know what to do. Who does that and no, she wasn't asking me for toilet paper.
Other updates:
BD attorney and I still have not connected. He called me back last night, but we were both out last night so we didn't get to chat. He said he would call back tonight.
I texted Yacht Rock boy and told him I was sick this week (which is true) and I would give him a call back once I was feeling better.
Off to yoga...will blog an update when I finally connect with BD attorney.
Other updates:
BD attorney and I still have not connected. He called me back last night, but we were both out last night so we didn't get to chat. He said he would call back tonight.
I texted Yacht Rock boy and told him I was sick this week (which is true) and I would give him a call back once I was feeling better.
Off to yoga...will blog an update when I finally connect with BD attorney.
Tuesday, August 11, 2009
Tuesday Updates
Guess Tuesday is the day to call...exciting!
1) Blind Date attorney called me back tonight. I was beginning to get nervous that he wasn't going to call but he did - right on cue at 7:30. I didn't answer because my sinuses are really bothering me and I sound horrific. He was super cute on his message and said he wanted to see if we could get together again. After a quick call to BFF, she convinced me that I sound much better & only a little congested.
2) Yacht Rock guy called tonight too. Now I know his name thank goodness. Felt really bad about about not remembering, but chances are he probably didn't remember my name either and was praying my vmail would pick up so he could catch my name on the message.
3) I texted Baseball boy last night and he texted back. He seems nice but I am totally turned off with his Braves obsession. However, what is it going to hurt to go out with him one time...I need 1st dates. How bad could it be? (yes, I know I just jinxed myself by writing that)
Calling them back in order of date priority and right now, even though I have the 25 1st date challenge, Blind Date attorney is in the lead so he will receive call back #1, then I will call Yacht Rock and text back Baseball Boy.
Called Blind Date attorney and left a message. holding off on calling anyone else back until I hear from him. My sched is crazy and I don't want to book a date with someone else until I can schedule BD attorney.
Check back later for an update under this same post.
Snuggling up to watch Season 2 Mad Men in prep for Sunday's Season 3 premier. Sweet Dreams!
1) Blind Date attorney called me back tonight. I was beginning to get nervous that he wasn't going to call but he did - right on cue at 7:30. I didn't answer because my sinuses are really bothering me and I sound horrific. He was super cute on his message and said he wanted to see if we could get together again. After a quick call to BFF, she convinced me that I sound much better & only a little congested.
2) Yacht Rock guy called tonight too. Now I know his name thank goodness. Felt really bad about about not remembering, but chances are he probably didn't remember my name either and was praying my vmail would pick up so he could catch my name on the message.
3) I texted Baseball boy last night and he texted back. He seems nice but I am totally turned off with his Braves obsession. However, what is it going to hurt to go out with him one time...I need 1st dates. How bad could it be? (yes, I know I just jinxed myself by writing that)
Calling them back in order of date priority and right now, even though I have the 25 1st date challenge, Blind Date attorney is in the lead so he will receive call back #1, then I will call Yacht Rock and text back Baseball Boy.
Called Blind Date attorney and left a message. holding off on calling anyone else back until I hear from him. My sched is crazy and I don't want to book a date with someone else until I can schedule BD attorney.
Check back later for an update under this same post.
Snuggling up to watch Season 2 Mad Men in prep for Sunday's Season 3 premier. Sweet Dreams!
Monday, August 10, 2009
Blind Date
Last night was my first blind date. A guy I used to work with set us up. I was super excited about the date because this guy seems to be right along the lines of what I am looking for- he is an attorney (professional) here in Atlanta (local), mid-30s (within the age range) and divorced (so he won't mind that I am).
He called last weekend to set up a time to meet. Point #1 since he didn't text me. Our schedules were off last week so we decided to meet on Sunday. He called Sat. to confirm the date - Point #2, he called again instead of texting. He picked out a place in my area of town - Point #3, he chose a place and didn't rely on me.
Yesterday afternoon I was nervous that it was going to be a terrible date because I was actually really excited about this date. Good news is I wasn't near as nervous as my 1st, 1st date so I am getting better at this.
The date went really well. He was very nice, let me pick my fav wine, good restaurant. It was comfortable, but not too comfortable. Conversation flowed well, but not the nervous chit-chat. Everything was on track to be a good, non-dramatic 1st date until the waiter came over to refill our water. I need to start this portion of the story by telling you I am wearing white jeans and for those of you that have white jeans you know they are already a little see-thru. The waiter goes to fill up my glass and lost his grip on the very full water pitcher which proceeds to dump all in my lap! I am absolutely soaked to the bone. Blind Date and all the tables around us jump up and hand me napkins. It was pretty funny, but I was soaking wet and knew my jeans were not going to dry anytime soon. I didn't want to go to the bathroom to try and dry them off because I wasn't sure how see-thru they were going to be. I was a good sport and made it through the dinner with wet jeans (sexy right). Blind Date said at least it will be a memorable date.
All and all, the date was good and he said he wanted to see me again and would call me this week. There weren't fireworks, but we had a lot in common and he was very nice. Hopefully he will actually call because I would be excited to go out with him again. I will keep you posted.
Other Updates:
Tonight I am going to text back Baseball Boy to see what he is up to so I can begin accumulating 1st dates.
Yacht Rock guy has texted a few times so maybe he is a possiblity for another 1st date.
He called last weekend to set up a time to meet. Point #1 since he didn't text me. Our schedules were off last week so we decided to meet on Sunday. He called Sat. to confirm the date - Point #2, he called again instead of texting. He picked out a place in my area of town - Point #3, he chose a place and didn't rely on me.
Yesterday afternoon I was nervous that it was going to be a terrible date because I was actually really excited about this date. Good news is I wasn't near as nervous as my 1st, 1st date so I am getting better at this.
The date went really well. He was very nice, let me pick my fav wine, good restaurant. It was comfortable, but not too comfortable. Conversation flowed well, but not the nervous chit-chat. Everything was on track to be a good, non-dramatic 1st date until the waiter came over to refill our water. I need to start this portion of the story by telling you I am wearing white jeans and for those of you that have white jeans you know they are already a little see-thru. The waiter goes to fill up my glass and lost his grip on the very full water pitcher which proceeds to dump all in my lap! I am absolutely soaked to the bone. Blind Date and all the tables around us jump up and hand me napkins. It was pretty funny, but I was soaking wet and knew my jeans were not going to dry anytime soon. I didn't want to go to the bathroom to try and dry them off because I wasn't sure how see-thru they were going to be. I was a good sport and made it through the dinner with wet jeans (sexy right). Blind Date said at least it will be a memorable date.
All and all, the date was good and he said he wanted to see me again and would call me this week. There weren't fireworks, but we had a lot in common and he was very nice. Hopefully he will actually call because I would be excited to go out with him again. I will keep you posted.
Other Updates:
Tonight I am going to text back Baseball Boy to see what he is up to so I can begin accumulating 1st dates.
Yacht Rock guy has texted a few times so maybe he is a possiblity for another 1st date.
Saturday, August 8, 2009
25 First Dates
Wasn't that the title of a movie??? BFF challenged me to go on 25 1st dates by December 31st. Considering there are less than 25 weeks left in the year, this is going to be hard - I might shoot for 15 1st dates and 25 total dates. Regardless, I am going to try and meet the challenge. I guess I need to call back some of the guys I have blogged about so I they can help me meet the goal.
Update on Baseball Boy...he has called a couple times and texted a few times. Almost every time he has been at or is leaving the Braves game. Really...he has an obsession with the Braves, but now I have to call him back so I can go on a 1st date with him.
Enjoy the journey.
Update on Baseball Boy...he has called a couple times and texted a few times. Almost every time he has been at or is leaving the Braves game. Really...he has an obsession with the Braves, but now I have to call him back so I can go on a 1st date with him.
Enjoy the journey.
Yacht Rock
Last night I went out with SWF (single work friend) and a group of her girls. Super excited to meet a whole new crew of girls. Not that I don't love my girlies, but it was so much fun to mix it up and hang out with a new crew. We went to see a band - Yacht Rock. SWF and I didn't have tix, but ended up sneaking in by telling them a name of the guest list. A few shots later, SWF and I are on the front row just like the band party days in college. Too much fun!
Met a guy, no idea what his name is, super nice, went home with him (don't worry...totally innocent fun). He was a total gentleman, gave me a back massage and tickled my back this morning, offered to go get me Starbucks (even after I told him what I order which is pretty complicated). He is going to play golf with a kid he mentors, etc. Of course I feel like a total jerk because I have no idea what his name is.
Off to the pool and to get a haircut. Happy Saturday!
Met a guy, no idea what his name is, super nice, went home with him (don't worry...totally innocent fun). He was a total gentleman, gave me a back massage and tickled my back this morning, offered to go get me Starbucks (even after I told him what I order which is pretty complicated). He is going to play golf with a kid he mentors, etc. Of course I feel like a total jerk because I have no idea what his name is.
Off to the pool and to get a haircut. Happy Saturday!
NYC
This week I took a day trip to NYC for work. Total mine field of cute guys - just the type I am looking for - early/mid 30s, professional and very good looking. I wish I had the $$$ to fly up and back on a weekly basis. I was with my boss so it wasn't the opportune time to chat it up with these professional hotties. NYC...I am booking a flight to come back soon.
Sunday, August 2, 2009
Baseball Boy
Single Best Friend (SBF) and I head out for a casual night on the town. Expecting nothing of the night, just checking out what is going on around town. End up talking to a somewhat cute, but great personality guy and bar hop with his friends for the night. He ask for my number which I am siked about. I have been officially single for a couple weeks and the dates keep on coming ;) Give him my number and he calls the standard few days later.
Finally, I guy that knows how to actually call someone without texting 1st.
BB: Would you like to go to a baseball game on Wednesday night.
Sidenote - Not exactly my ideal 1st date scenario because I don’t want to be hot and sweaty.
Me: I am so sorry, my schedule is a little crazy this week and I can’t go that Wednesday, but would love to get together one night the next week.
BB: Well there aren’t any baseball games in town next week.
SILENCE…what am I supposed to say, aren’t there other things to do besides baseball games.
ME: Ok
BB: Well I hope you have a great week.
Really…what just happened. I said no, offered another night and he doesn’t take me up on it because there aren’t any baseball games in town. I half expected him to call back and say…how stupid am I…why don’t we go do something next Tuesday.
He called back a week later, but didn’t leave a message.
I really don't get it.
Finally, I guy that knows how to actually call someone without texting 1st.
BB: Would you like to go to a baseball game on Wednesday night.
Sidenote - Not exactly my ideal 1st date scenario because I don’t want to be hot and sweaty.
Me: I am so sorry, my schedule is a little crazy this week and I can’t go that Wednesday, but would love to get together one night the next week.
BB: Well there aren’t any baseball games in town next week.
SILENCE…what am I supposed to say, aren’t there other things to do besides baseball games.
ME: Ok
BB: Well I hope you have a great week.
Really…what just happened. I said no, offered another night and he doesn’t take me up on it because there aren’t any baseball games in town. I half expected him to call back and say…how stupid am I…why don’t we go do something next Tuesday.
He called back a week later, but didn’t leave a message.
I really don't get it.
Hot Manager
I love eating out at nice restaurants. My running friends (BRF – best running friends) went out for a nice dinner to catch up on Friday night. Of course I am on the prowl for any cute guys because I am totally ready to date. I could not find the ladies room so the super hot manager helps me find my way…ok he is super hot! We cross paths a few times during our dinner and at the end of the night comes out to chat it up with our table for a while. He gives me his card and say if you ever need anything, please let me know.
Hello… I don’t want to call him, but he was super hot (have I mentioned that yet) and I want to go out with him. I don’t want to go out with him bad enough to be the one to ask him out though. I am forward but not that forward.
I decide to shoot him an email and ask a question about the wine I had at dinner that night. I was cute and a little flirty but the focus of the email was about the wine. It worked…he asked me out to split a bottle of wine since we seemed to have the same taste in wine.
I spend the next few days trying to research wine because I don’t know anything about wine except if I think it is good or not. I depend on others to pick it out.
This is a date I am really excited about so it prompts more call to my friends about what to wear. After a lengthy discussion and several emails, concensous is reached and the outfit is decided on – 2 days in advance.
The day before the date I receive a text from Hot Manager saying he ran into a financial crisis is now broke so we can’t go out. What??? 1) Why text that? 2) Why tell me that and 3) WTH???
My immediate reaction is that it is a dramatic excuse, but I could not figure out what would have changed.
A few hours later I receive a follow up text requesting that I accept his friend request on Facebook so we can get to know each other better until he overcomes the financial crisis because he is interested. Seriously…several points to this –
Why do we have to be friends on Facebook to get to know each other have you ever heard of the telephone?
Couldn’t we go out for coffee…dates don’t have to be expensive
I am damn glad this happened before we went out because this guy seems like a total loony
Now I can never go back to that restaurant L
New rule: Avoid anyone in the restaurant industry because I am going to run out of places to eat. This is the second restaurant I can’t go to because of a guy.
Hot Manager turned into Crazy Manager no longer hot.
Hello… I don’t want to call him, but he was super hot (have I mentioned that yet) and I want to go out with him. I don’t want to go out with him bad enough to be the one to ask him out though. I am forward but not that forward.
I decide to shoot him an email and ask a question about the wine I had at dinner that night. I was cute and a little flirty but the focus of the email was about the wine. It worked…he asked me out to split a bottle of wine since we seemed to have the same taste in wine.
I spend the next few days trying to research wine because I don’t know anything about wine except if I think it is good or not. I depend on others to pick it out.
This is a date I am really excited about so it prompts more call to my friends about what to wear. After a lengthy discussion and several emails, concensous is reached and the outfit is decided on – 2 days in advance.
The day before the date I receive a text from Hot Manager saying he ran into a financial crisis is now broke so we can’t go out. What??? 1) Why text that? 2) Why tell me that and 3) WTH???
My immediate reaction is that it is a dramatic excuse, but I could not figure out what would have changed.
A few hours later I receive a follow up text requesting that I accept his friend request on Facebook so we can get to know each other better until he overcomes the financial crisis because he is interested. Seriously…several points to this –
Why do we have to be friends on Facebook to get to know each other have you ever heard of the telephone?
Couldn’t we go out for coffee…dates don’t have to be expensive
I am damn glad this happened before we went out because this guy seems like a total loony
Now I can never go back to that restaurant L
New rule: Avoid anyone in the restaurant industry because I am going to run out of places to eat. This is the second restaurant I can’t go to because of a guy.
Hot Manager turned into Crazy Manager no longer hot.
My First First Date
I haven’t dated in over 7 years. I haven’t flirted in over 7 years. A lot has changed during this time. There are now a million ways to communicate – Facebook, texting, phone, email…which means you have to check all these forms of media to find out if your guy of interest is interested in you. Let the fun and amusement.
I met Dancer the night of my co-birthday bash with my BFF. One thing you need to know about me early on is I will talk to anyone. I often stray from my group of girls and find complete strangers to talk to – I also get to know the servers/cocktail waitress/bartenders at my fav establishments. So back to Dancer…totally not my type but I was intrigued by his incredible dance moves. I found it very sexy. I have identified my target for a first date. Someone who is fun, different and someone I know I won’t be interested in romantically. I am a perfectionist and want to practice dating with guys I don’t like first so I am good at it by the time I go out with someone I really like.
Day before 1st date
I drive all my friends CRAZY…do I offer to pay because I am a southern girl and really I don’t mean it if I offer? BTW…call me old fashion but if you make me pay, we won’t be going out again. What do I wear? I don’t want to be too dressed up or too dressed down. Should he pick me up or should we meet? What if we don’t have anything to say? How do you end the date? What should I order? How many drinks should I have? What if he asks if I am divorced, how do you answer that?
Day of the 1st, 1st date
I am sick to my stomach. Why I nervous – I don’t get nervous about meeting people. It’s my job to talk to people, connect and build relationships so dating should not be a problem. Not to mention, I am a very outgoing, confident girl. Again, why am I nervous?
I have to leave work early because my stomach is in a knot and I can’t think about anything except the date.
I call my out of town BFF and ask her if I should have a shot before my date to calm my nerves. Answer: NO, you don’t want to get drunk on the 1st date.
I met Dancer at a Latin tapas restaurant. He appears to be extremely nervous to the point where he is sweating. I turn into a mute. All I can think about is what is wrong with me, normally I am a chatterbox. We both get a drink in us and he carries the conversation. I ask questions, he gives long answers.
I discovered, I don’t like talking about me and would rather ask questions about my date.
After a couple sangrias, Dancer offers to teach me salsa. I am a white girl with no rhythm so I become extremely nervous all over again. However, this is my chance to be the couple that doesn’t care what people think and even though no one else is dancing, we are going to get up and dance.
I was terrible, but he pretended like I did an ok job. It was a lot of fun and Dancer was a total gentleman. He walked me to my car and gave me an innocent 1st date kiss.
I am so relieved to have the 1st date over and feel back to my confident self. I now know what to expect!
I met Dancer the night of my co-birthday bash with my BFF. One thing you need to know about me early on is I will talk to anyone. I often stray from my group of girls and find complete strangers to talk to – I also get to know the servers/cocktail waitress/bartenders at my fav establishments. So back to Dancer…totally not my type but I was intrigued by his incredible dance moves. I found it very sexy. I have identified my target for a first date. Someone who is fun, different and someone I know I won’t be interested in romantically. I am a perfectionist and want to practice dating with guys I don’t like first so I am good at it by the time I go out with someone I really like.
Day before 1st date
I drive all my friends CRAZY…do I offer to pay because I am a southern girl and really I don’t mean it if I offer? BTW…call me old fashion but if you make me pay, we won’t be going out again. What do I wear? I don’t want to be too dressed up or too dressed down. Should he pick me up or should we meet? What if we don’t have anything to say? How do you end the date? What should I order? How many drinks should I have? What if he asks if I am divorced, how do you answer that?
Day of the 1st, 1st date
I am sick to my stomach. Why I nervous – I don’t get nervous about meeting people. It’s my job to talk to people, connect and build relationships so dating should not be a problem. Not to mention, I am a very outgoing, confident girl. Again, why am I nervous?
I have to leave work early because my stomach is in a knot and I can’t think about anything except the date.
I call my out of town BFF and ask her if I should have a shot before my date to calm my nerves. Answer: NO, you don’t want to get drunk on the 1st date.
I met Dancer at a Latin tapas restaurant. He appears to be extremely nervous to the point where he is sweating. I turn into a mute. All I can think about is what is wrong with me, normally I am a chatterbox. We both get a drink in us and he carries the conversation. I ask questions, he gives long answers.
I discovered, I don’t like talking about me and would rather ask questions about my date.
After a couple sangrias, Dancer offers to teach me salsa. I am a white girl with no rhythm so I become extremely nervous all over again. However, this is my chance to be the couple that doesn’t care what people think and even though no one else is dancing, we are going to get up and dance.
I was terrible, but he pretended like I did an ok job. It was a lot of fun and Dancer was a total gentleman. He walked me to my car and gave me an innocent 1st date kiss.
I am so relieved to have the 1st date over and feel back to my confident self. I now know what to expect!
Skinny the Stalker
I guess after the divorce I have a new vibe that says…yes I am back on the market.
There is a great restaurant in the bottom of the building where I work and I eat multiple times a week. This restaurant has a great menu & good service.
You will find out over the course of this blog, I am very friendly to everyone. I am beginning to realize I may have to change my ways…Because I frequent this restaurant multiple times a week, you would expect that I get to know the staff, they know I like a black napkin and an iced tea. Hello…there were a few months when I ate there 4+ times a week. One of the waiters, we will call him Skinny, became extra friendly with me – more than normal. At first I didn’t think anything about it until he started to call me gorgeous or sweetie and would go out of his way to make sure he brought my drink and napkin to the table even if it wasn’t in his section.
Then the free desserts or appetizers started coming. Getting a little stranger, but it was a great benefit.
Next came the Facebook request. This creeped me out big time. How did he know my last name? Why does he want to be my friend on Facebook?
This triggered an immediate reduction in my visits to the regular spot – I would go weeks at a time without going in. Even the manager asked why I wasn’t coming in as much.
Now keep in mind, I love the food at this place and I broke down one day and had to have one of their soups. I decided I could sit at the bar, hopefully Skinny wouldn’t see me, took work with me so I would be unapproachable and hoped for the best. Mission Failed. He immediately came over and talked to me for what seemed like an eternity even though I kept trying to read the papers I brought or was checking my blackberry. I ate the soup as fast as possible and tried to scramble out without him seeing me leave. Mission Failed again. He comes over with a take out bag – yes dessert again. I politely thank him and run out the door.
Yummy, it was my fav dessert – hot cookie cake with ice cream and caramel. I get back to my desk and whip out the dessert. Out fall a piece of paper…”Thanks for coming in your brightened my day. Hope this brightens yours… Skinny and below his name was his number. CREEPY…we take a quick poll around the office some people think its creepy and others think it’s sweet.
I know I should just tell him I am not interested, but it makes me uncomfortable. What if he is a crazy stalker and trying to attack me? He is definitely persistent and doesn’t pick up on any clues.
Instead of confronting the issue head on, I have stopped going to the restaurant.
There is a great restaurant in the bottom of the building where I work and I eat multiple times a week. This restaurant has a great menu & good service.
You will find out over the course of this blog, I am very friendly to everyone. I am beginning to realize I may have to change my ways…Because I frequent this restaurant multiple times a week, you would expect that I get to know the staff, they know I like a black napkin and an iced tea. Hello…there were a few months when I ate there 4+ times a week. One of the waiters, we will call him Skinny, became extra friendly with me – more than normal. At first I didn’t think anything about it until he started to call me gorgeous or sweetie and would go out of his way to make sure he brought my drink and napkin to the table even if it wasn’t in his section.
Then the free desserts or appetizers started coming. Getting a little stranger, but it was a great benefit.
Next came the Facebook request. This creeped me out big time. How did he know my last name? Why does he want to be my friend on Facebook?
This triggered an immediate reduction in my visits to the regular spot – I would go weeks at a time without going in. Even the manager asked why I wasn’t coming in as much.
Now keep in mind, I love the food at this place and I broke down one day and had to have one of their soups. I decided I could sit at the bar, hopefully Skinny wouldn’t see me, took work with me so I would be unapproachable and hoped for the best. Mission Failed. He immediately came over and talked to me for what seemed like an eternity even though I kept trying to read the papers I brought or was checking my blackberry. I ate the soup as fast as possible and tried to scramble out without him seeing me leave. Mission Failed again. He comes over with a take out bag – yes dessert again. I politely thank him and run out the door.
Yummy, it was my fav dessert – hot cookie cake with ice cream and caramel. I get back to my desk and whip out the dessert. Out fall a piece of paper…”Thanks for coming in your brightened my day. Hope this brightens yours… Skinny and below his name was his number. CREEPY…we take a quick poll around the office some people think its creepy and others think it’s sweet.
I know I should just tell him I am not interested, but it makes me uncomfortable. What if he is a crazy stalker and trying to attack me? He is definitely persistent and doesn’t pick up on any clues.
Instead of confronting the issue head on, I have stopped going to the restaurant.
New Beginnings…
I am back. The vivacious, fun loving, smiling, confident, party girl is back. I love shopping, family & friends, wine, vodka gimlets, talking to strangers, eating yummy food and being a southern girl.
In graduate school I learned the term…work hard play hard and that has been my life over the past 3 months. My friends and family wanted the “old” me back and they got it times a million.
Several months ago, after 3 ½ years of marriage, I started over. I ended the marriage, moved into a new condo, bought all new furniture, bought a new car and started my new life. Thank God for second chances.
I am starting this blog to share the stories of a twenty something divorcé. After weeks hearing of stories about dating, going out and starting over, my co-workers suggested I write a book. Being a modern girl, I thought a blog would be the best option.
I am soaking up every moment of my new life and will chronicle my adventures in this blog.
Enjoy.
In graduate school I learned the term…work hard play hard and that has been my life over the past 3 months. My friends and family wanted the “old” me back and they got it times a million.
Several months ago, after 3 ½ years of marriage, I started over. I ended the marriage, moved into a new condo, bought all new furniture, bought a new car and started my new life. Thank God for second chances.
I am starting this blog to share the stories of a twenty something divorcé. After weeks hearing of stories about dating, going out and starting over, my co-workers suggested I write a book. Being a modern girl, I thought a blog would be the best option.
I am soaking up every moment of my new life and will chronicle my adventures in this blog.
Enjoy.
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