Wow…NYC treated me right. This was my first trip by myself for leisure – I don’t know that you can actually call it a true trip since it was only for 1 night/day, BUT it was a good start. It is definitely more fun to have someone with you, but it was a “growing” experience for me.
I met New York for drinks at the Four Seasons. I was a little nervous because I was afraid I might not recognize him. Luckily, there was more than 1 bar so he met me in the lobby. He had a client dinner so we only had 2 hours, but I had a a great time (only after I left did I screw things up). On my way to NYC I was thinking – why I am interested in this guy. Am I just interested because it is a challenge and he is from out of town?. I met him for a couple hours a month ago. After spending some more time with him, I remember why. He is so much fun to talk to. He is younger than me YIKES…No cougar comments please…he is 27.
He is a total gentleman. Amazing conversation. He is very interesting, well spoken, close with his family, career oriented, smart and likes to have fun. Not only did he buy my drinks, he also paid for my cab fare – I found a Yankee with southern manners.
I was nervous and had too many drinks (3 gimlets in 2 hours) and had a nice buzz going when I left drinks New York. I went to dinner and had a few more drinks so I was in a drunken stupor by the time I finished dinner. That’s when psycho came out. I started texting New York basically begging him to meet me out. I sent no less than 8 text. Really…am I really that desperate. No, but apparently after a few drinks I act that way.
Anyway, I sent a final text to New York the next afternoon telling him that I was mortified about stalking him last night and that I was not a crazy person. He sent a text saying he thought it was funny and he had a great time. I guess it doesn’t really matter because when am I really going to see him again, but I don’t want some guy out there thinking I am a crazy stalker after meeting him 2x. So, I screwed up by being a text stalker but at least it makes for a funny story. Haven’t heard from him since the last text and probably never will.
Sunday, November 22, 2009
Thursday, November 12, 2009
New York Date Update
I am on the plane right now headed to NYC for a work meeting and I decided to stay over one night and take a break from the craziness of work. I talked to New York last night and we are meeting for drinks tonight!!! He has a client dinner but we are meeting beforehand for a couple drinks. He was so sweet on the phone last night. While I was fairly intoxicated when I met him, I do remember having a great conversation with him so I am looking forward to spending some more time with him. I know that he lives in New York and it will go now where, but it's something fun to do.
He gave me the choice of meeting him at Starbucks or the Four Seasons - he was obviously taking a jab at me for standing him up for our coffee date last time. I am still nervous that he is going to pay me back and stand me up :( I will die if that happens! Last night I was flipping through the channels and ended up watching a little bit of You've Got Mail with Meg Ryan & Tom Hanks. There is a scene where she is supposed to meet him for coffee but he realizes who she is and she is basically stood up - she spends an hour in the coffee house staring at the door and every person that walks in hoping it is him. I thought...well that could be me tonight - sitting at the bar alone waiting for New York to show up - hopefully not!
Stay tuned...
He gave me the choice of meeting him at Starbucks or the Four Seasons - he was obviously taking a jab at me for standing him up for our coffee date last time. I am still nervous that he is going to pay me back and stand me up :( I will die if that happens! Last night I was flipping through the channels and ended up watching a little bit of You've Got Mail with Meg Ryan & Tom Hanks. There is a scene where she is supposed to meet him for coffee but he realizes who she is and she is basically stood up - she spends an hour in the coffee house staring at the door and every person that walks in hoping it is him. I thought...well that could be me tonight - sitting at the bar alone waiting for New York to show up - hopefully not!
Stay tuned...
Auburn Update
So I wasn't sure if I would hear back from Auburn and as yesterday drew to a close, I was certain I would not hear from him. If you go out on Saturday, aren't they supposed to call by Tuesday??? Once again, I was wrong about the whole dating thing... Auburn called last night. We chatted for a while - he is so hysterical. I have been so stressed about work lately to the point of misery and Auburn has been a welcome reprieve from my head spinning with everything I have going on. Last night after I hung up the phone with him, I was in such a better mood! I am out of town the rest of the week and headed to the Auburn game Saturday (WDE!!!) so we penciled in a date for Sunday.
Monday, November 9, 2009
I don't understand South Beach
Please don't think I am crazy because I am obsessed with someone I met one time...
I didn't totally delete South Beach from my phone - apparently, when you are drunk, you miss a couple phone calls here and there. I am headed to NYC this week and since South Beach travels as much as I do, I texted him yesterday to see if there was an outside chance he would be in NYC this week. His company is headquartered there and he lived there for several years so I thought it was worth a shot.
This weekend he was on a guys golf outing and he called me yesterday, in the middle of his guy golf weekend, to respond to my text. I missed his call so I didn't talk to him yesterday, but I took it as a good sign that he called me while still on his trip - right???
I returned his call after waiting the appropriate amount of time (so he doesn't think I am sitting around waiting for his call). Left him a message. He called back tonight and we talked for 30 + minutes. He won't be in NYC this week :(
I am not complaining, but why does he call? He doesn't have a trip planned to Atlanta. He apparently used to travel here a lot, but his work schedule has changed due to a couple things and he doesn't come here as often. He isn't asking me out or inviting me down to SB so I don't get it. Again, no complaining - but I am not sure of his intentions. Thinking from a guys perspective, he wants to keep me engaged in case he has a trip here? I don't know. Again, more confusion in the dating world.
I didn't totally delete South Beach from my phone - apparently, when you are drunk, you miss a couple phone calls here and there. I am headed to NYC this week and since South Beach travels as much as I do, I texted him yesterday to see if there was an outside chance he would be in NYC this week. His company is headquartered there and he lived there for several years so I thought it was worth a shot.
This weekend he was on a guys golf outing and he called me yesterday, in the middle of his guy golf weekend, to respond to my text. I missed his call so I didn't talk to him yesterday, but I took it as a good sign that he called me while still on his trip - right???
I returned his call after waiting the appropriate amount of time (so he doesn't think I am sitting around waiting for his call). Left him a message. He called back tonight and we talked for 30 + minutes. He won't be in NYC this week :(
I am not complaining, but why does he call? He doesn't have a trip planned to Atlanta. He apparently used to travel here a lot, but his work schedule has changed due to a couple things and he doesn't come here as often. He isn't asking me out or inviting me down to SB so I don't get it. Again, no complaining - but I am not sure of his intentions. Thinking from a guys perspective, he wants to keep me engaged in case he has a trip here? I don't know. Again, more confusion in the dating world.
Sunday, November 8, 2009
Band Guy Update
I am STILL playing phone tag with Band Guy. I have to admit, there have been a few times he has called and I could have answered but it just wasn't a convenient time. He called a couple times this week and I texted him to let him know I would call when I got back in town. I called him on Friday and he called back tonight.
I finally left him a message tonight that said we should just set a date and time to meet so we can finally talk to each other instead of playing phone tag. We can coordinate the logistics over voicemail.
He voicemails are still super cute :)
I finally left him a message tonight that said we should just set a date and time to meet so we can finally talk to each other instead of playing phone tag. We can coordinate the logistics over voicemail.
He voicemails are still super cute :)
Baseball Boy Update
I totally forgot that I made a bet with Baseball boy, who happens to be a huge Alabama fan, that whoever lost the AU/UA game, would take the winner out for a beer. Baseball boy texted me Friday night that he had a feeling I would be taking him out for a beer soon. He sent me a few random texts but never asked me out after the weird Braves game ask me out incident but I haven't heard from him in several weeks.
We'll see what happens with that - I am fairly certain if Auburn loses, he will so to be paid up on our bet. If I am taking him out for a drink on a bet, does that still count as a date?
We'll see what happens with that - I am fairly certain if Auburn loses, he will so to be paid up on our bet. If I am taking him out for a drink on a bet, does that still count as a date?
Auburn
Thursday night, out with girlfriends, I met a guy and one of his friends. This guy caught my eye because he was having such a good time. I am going to nickname this guy Auburn because he went to Auburn & potentially played fball there (he is such a joker I am not certain and of course cannot remember his last name to google him).
I hung out with Auburn and his friend for a good part of the night. I had a great time with him. Thursday night, he asked me out for Saturday night to a party he was attending. My rule about guys who ask me out while drinking is for them to ask me the next day when they are sober ;) Friday he called and asked me to the party again.
Auburn and I went out Saturday night for drinks and then to a party. When we were out for drinks, we ran into a couple that we both knew (such a small world). Auburn is totally hysterical - I cried several times last night because I was laughing so hard. I swear my stomach is sore today just from laughing! The party was a lot of fun and he is definitely a social butterfly and the center of attention at the party.
I am not head over heels about Auburn, but would go out with him again if he called. However, I do think based on the questions he asked me last night, he is looking for something way more serious than I am right now.
I hung out with Auburn and his friend for a good part of the night. I had a great time with him. Thursday night, he asked me out for Saturday night to a party he was attending. My rule about guys who ask me out while drinking is for them to ask me the next day when they are sober ;) Friday he called and asked me to the party again.
Auburn and I went out Saturday night for drinks and then to a party. When we were out for drinks, we ran into a couple that we both knew (such a small world). Auburn is totally hysterical - I cried several times last night because I was laughing so hard. I swear my stomach is sore today just from laughing! The party was a lot of fun and he is definitely a social butterfly and the center of attention at the party.
I am not head over heels about Auburn, but would go out with him again if he called. However, I do think based on the questions he asked me last night, he is looking for something way more serious than I am right now.
Dating Frustrations
Last week after BDE texted a let's not see each anymore text, I was upset and frustrated with dating. On my flight home the next day, I decided I need to focus on myself and quit worrying about guys and dating. The negativity and frustration associated with dating is not something I want to deal with right now. I have a lot going on with work and enough stress in my life - dating doesn't need to amplify my stress. By the time the plane landed, I was set on forgetting about guys and focusing on enjoying life.
I had plans to go out with SBF and another friend that night and I was excited to go out, hang out with them and not worry about scouting out potential dates.
While we were out I ran into an old work friend and he was quizzing me on how dating was going. I vented to him about my frustrations, which I won't go into again. His advice, you have to stay in the game, stay positive and let everything roll off your back. The trick to dating is timing. I may meet an amazing guy who is really into me and we hit it off but if a new girl enters the picture the night before/after or an old girlfriend- it can throw off the situation entirely. Per him, most radio silence, doesn't have anything to do with the rejected party - its mere circumstance. He did give a few pointers and things that would cause you to be reason for rejection, but luckily - I haven't done any of those things.
Of course, within 24 hours of deciding to "focus" on myself, I heard from guys I had not heard from in months and met 2 new guys. Isn't that how it always works.
I had plans to go out with SBF and another friend that night and I was excited to go out, hang out with them and not worry about scouting out potential dates.
While we were out I ran into an old work friend and he was quizzing me on how dating was going. I vented to him about my frustrations, which I won't go into again. His advice, you have to stay in the game, stay positive and let everything roll off your back. The trick to dating is timing. I may meet an amazing guy who is really into me and we hit it off but if a new girl enters the picture the night before/after or an old girlfriend- it can throw off the situation entirely. Per him, most radio silence, doesn't have anything to do with the rejected party - its mere circumstance. He did give a few pointers and things that would cause you to be reason for rejection, but luckily - I haven't done any of those things.
Of course, within 24 hours of deciding to "focus" on myself, I heard from guys I had not heard from in months and met 2 new guys. Isn't that how it always works.
New York Update
Last week I found out I have a meeting in NYC on Thursday afternoon. Since it is on Thursday, I am going to stay Thursday night and spend an extra day in NYC!
I texted New York, the guy I stood up for a coffee date, to see if he was interested in drinks. He has a client dinner, but said he could meet me before the dinner. Hopefully karma won't come back to bite me - I can just see him canceling the date because I stood him up last time. Anyway, I am excited for the trip and hopefully a drink date will just be a plus :)
I texted New York, the guy I stood up for a coffee date, to see if he was interested in drinks. He has a client dinner, but said he could meet me before the dinner. Hopefully karma won't come back to bite me - I can just see him canceling the date because I stood him up last time. Anyway, I am excited for the trip and hopefully a drink date will just be a plus :)
South Beach Update
I am still obsessed with South Beach - probably because I know this is the least likely person to work out and it is the biggest challenge. I was in New Orleans this week which happens to be one of his favorite cities. He and I texted a couple times when I was there - nothing profound.
He travels a lot for work as well and he was in New Orleans the week before. In running through our travel schedules, we travel to some of the same cities, just not at the same time.
Wednesday I found out I would be going to New York. Since he is in the financial industry, he is in New York a good bit. I sent him a text with a couple dates I thought I would be there and told him that if these dates didn't work, I was giving up on it ever working out to see each other. He called within 15 minutes.
We chatted for a while, but again, no plans to see each other. I can't tell if he is interested. I know we live in different cities so that is a challenge in itself, we both in the midst of busy seasons at work which adds an extra layer of difficulty... BUT, if he isn't interested, why has he called???
In my rage about BDE/BDJ, I did another mass delete of most of the guys in my phone although I missed a few - unfortunately, South Beach is deleted again so its up to him if I hear from him again.
He travels a lot for work as well and he was in New Orleans the week before. In running through our travel schedules, we travel to some of the same cities, just not at the same time.
Wednesday I found out I would be going to New York. Since he is in the financial industry, he is in New York a good bit. I sent him a text with a couple dates I thought I would be there and told him that if these dates didn't work, I was giving up on it ever working out to see each other. He called within 15 minutes.
We chatted for a while, but again, no plans to see each other. I can't tell if he is interested. I know we live in different cities so that is a challenge in itself, we both in the midst of busy seasons at work which adds an extra layer of difficulty... BUT, if he isn't interested, why has he called???
In my rage about BDE/BDJ, I did another mass delete of most of the guys in my phone although I missed a few - unfortunately, South Beach is deleted again so its up to him if I hear from him again.
Blind Date Extraordinaire
After consulting a couple friends, BDE (Blind Date Extraordinaire) is the name we came up with for the guy my BRF set me up with for dinner. BDE and I went out the Monday after our Friday dinner. We were meeting later because we both had to work late, exercise, etc. After trekking around to a couple bars that were closing (it was only 9:30/10), we decided to just go to his house and sit on the porch to have a drink. We had a great time - it was great to sit in a relaxing atmosphere and chat. For the purposes of full disclosure I did not spend the night.
I have been traveling a lot for work so it was difficult for us to find a time to get together. BDE and I had plans to get together the following Sunday night - I was traveling and we both already had plans for Friday and Saturday nights. Friday night, I was out with a couple girlfriends at a Halloween party and received a text from BDE. He had a charity dinner that night and was finished and wanted to meet me out. After debating and consulting a few guys - I didn't want to seem too available - I decided to meet him out. We had another great night - hanging out and chatting. I ended up spending the night with him (and no, I did not sleep with him - everyone has asked). We hung out for a little while that morning and I sported my Halloween costume on the drive and walk of shame home ;)
Saturday night he called to let me know that he was going to have to work on Sunday night but wanted to get together sometime that week. This should have been my first clue. Unfortunately, I was out of town all week so we weren't able to get together. On Wednesday, I sent a text "Do I need to leave any room in my weekend plans for you ;) " Big mistake...I didn't like the reply. Since I was totally pissed about the reply, I deleted that text, all the others and BDE from my call log. Therefore, I can't quote he is response exactly, plus I was a little drunk when I received it, but the gist of it was that he was crazy at work and this wasn't a good time for him to be dating, he didn't really have time but he would like to stay in touch. Let me interpret this - I am not interested but don't have the balls to say so or at least call and say it - don't send it over text!
I emailed BRF the next day to fill her in and she said she doesn't think I have heard the last of him and there may be some truth to his response since both he and I asked her to wait to set us up until work settled down but she set us up anyway. My theory is 1) old fling/girlfriend came back into the picture or 2) he really wasn't that interested.
I changed his name from BDE to BDJ.
I have been traveling a lot for work so it was difficult for us to find a time to get together. BDE and I had plans to get together the following Sunday night - I was traveling and we both already had plans for Friday and Saturday nights. Friday night, I was out with a couple girlfriends at a Halloween party and received a text from BDE. He had a charity dinner that night and was finished and wanted to meet me out. After debating and consulting a few guys - I didn't want to seem too available - I decided to meet him out. We had another great night - hanging out and chatting. I ended up spending the night with him (and no, I did not sleep with him - everyone has asked). We hung out for a little while that morning and I sported my Halloween costume on the drive and walk of shame home ;)
Saturday night he called to let me know that he was going to have to work on Sunday night but wanted to get together sometime that week. This should have been my first clue. Unfortunately, I was out of town all week so we weren't able to get together. On Wednesday, I sent a text "Do I need to leave any room in my weekend plans for you ;) " Big mistake...I didn't like the reply. Since I was totally pissed about the reply, I deleted that text, all the others and BDE from my call log. Therefore, I can't quote he is response exactly, plus I was a little drunk when I received it, but the gist of it was that he was crazy at work and this wasn't a good time for him to be dating, he didn't really have time but he would like to stay in touch. Let me interpret this - I am not interested but don't have the balls to say so or at least call and say it - don't send it over text!
I emailed BRF the next day to fill her in and she said she doesn't think I have heard the last of him and there may be some truth to his response since both he and I asked her to wait to set us up until work settled down but she set us up anyway. My theory is 1) old fling/girlfriend came back into the picture or 2) he really wasn't that interested.
I changed his name from BDE to BDJ.
Saturday, November 7, 2009
Sorry!
I apologize that I have not updated the blog in a while. Things have been a little crazy. Quick updates with details to follow tomorrow.
1) South Beach and I have talked a few times
2) BDE (blind date extraordinaire) now turned BDJ (blind date jerk) update to follow tomorrow
3) Headed to NYC this week and have tentative drinks scheduled with New York
4) Baseball boy texted last night
5) I have a date tonight with a new guy I met Thursday night (#8)
6) Another guy I met Thursday night has called and texted a few times
Back to football and getting ready for my date
1) South Beach and I have talked a few times
2) BDE (blind date extraordinaire) now turned BDJ (blind date jerk) update to follow tomorrow
3) Headed to NYC this week and have tentative drinks scheduled with New York
4) Baseball boy texted last night
5) I have a date tonight with a new guy I met Thursday night (#8)
6) Another guy I met Thursday night has called and texted a few times
Back to football and getting ready for my date
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